Sailing on the giant ship of life, the masters are always able to deal with all kinds of wind and waves with ease. They are well versed in some of the "unspoken rules" of life, and these seemingly simple truths actually contain a wealth of wisdom. The following are the rules of life that are often used by the four masters but are not easily revealed. Let me see your bookshelves
OneInterests come first, restrain emotions
When encountering someone they don't like or look down on, the reaction of ordinary people may be to avoid them or directly express their dissatisfaction. But the masters are different, they understand that in interpersonal interactions, emotional likes and dislikes should often give way to the consideration of interests. As long as the other party can bring benefits to themselves, the masters can restrain their inner disgust and maintain a good relationship with the other party. This is not to say that masters do not have emotions, but they can look at the relationship between emotions and interests more rationally, and will not damage their long-term interests due to momentary emotional impulses.
IIRecognize people objectively and overcome prejudices
When we look at and recognize people, we are easily influenced by our own biases, which leads to wrong judgments about people. But the masters are different, they can always maintain an objective, rational and comprehensive attitude to look at a person. They will not be easily fooled by superficial phenomena, nor will they distort their perception of others because of their personal likes and dislikes. This attitude allows them to identify real talent more accurately, and also avoids the loss of looking at the wrong person.
IIITry not to offend people, especially from villains
In interpersonal communication, it is inevitable to encounter various contradictions and conflicts. But masters always try to avoid offending people, especially those who are insidious. They understand that villains are difficult to mess with and difficult to deal with, and once they offend them, they are likely to bring endless trouble and losses to themselves. Therefore, masters are always cautious when dealing with interpersonal relationships, and try to be kind to others and make money in harmony. This will not only create a good interpersonal environment for yourself, but also avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles.
FourthKnow how to share, don't eat the benefits alone
It is good to know how to share with others, which is an important principle for masters to deal with the world. They understand that eating alone will only make them isolated, and that knowing how to share can win the goodwill and support of others. When there are benefits, masters are always generous in sharing them with others, which not only enhances their interpersonal attractiveness, but also lays a solid foundation for their future development.
In addition to the above four unspoken rules of life, masters also have a common feature of high emotional intelligence. They are good at complimenting, praising and praising people, which is the lowest cost social weapon. By complimenting others, masters can not only get closer to others, but also establish a good image for themselves. This art of speaking is something we need to keep learning and practicing in our daily lives.
Finally, I recommend you to take a look at the book "Master Control". By sharing and interpreting the strategic wisdom of the temple level of Chinese history, it explains for us the complexity of human nature and the unpredictability of the human heart. This book is not only a classic of strategy, but also a recipe for social survival. It can help us cultivate the city, learn to play games with others, know how to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and grasp the interpersonal initiative. If you are interested, you may wish to read it, I believe you will benefit a lot from it.