In this era when wages are rising much slower than prices, many people want to make quick money and live a better life. As a result, many demons and monsters dressed in "getting rich" came into being, including extremely harmful online gambling.
Many people say that they owe hundreds of thousands or millions of debts because of online gambling, and their monthly salary is less than 10,000, how should they make up for this pit? Is there any salvation?
As an adult, it stands to reason that you are rational and should know how to control your behaviorWhy are so many people still trapped in the abyss of hopelessness?
Why is online gambling addictive? When you are still a little worried and give it a try, they will give you a little sweetness, such as if you invest 10,000 yuan and win two or three thousand in a blink of an eye, this ultra-high income will give the brain a strong stimulation, allowing you to secrete a large amount of dopamine in the short term and produce a sense of excitement.
When you see this kind of short-term high returns, you will slowly deny the value of working overtime and hard work, and you will think: if you study it carefully, the money you make in this way is worth the salary of decades of work. So my mind became farther and farther away from my work.
After that, every time you gamble, you may lose or win, this is random. For example, if you won 80,000 the day before yesterday and lost 150,000 yesterday, but today you won another 100,000, and in total, you still won 30,000, no loss.
It is this uncertainty that makes you have good expectations for the future, and you feel that you will definitely win next time, and you may earn 300,000 or even 500,000 yuan, and you can easily buy a good car.
Finally, you fall deeper and deeper, you can't get up again, you lose cornered, and you go bankrupt.
Is it true that gamblers are forever trapped in the quagmire of online gambling and cannot extricate themselves? Is there no help?
1. Drugs**
Psychologists can use some emotionally stable medications to help control impulsive behavior.
The drug needs to be used regularly, and the effect will be better with psychological **.
Medications canControl your gambling urgesHowever, it cannot eliminate the gambling mentality, the purpose is to keep the mood stable, to reflect, to adapt to normal life, and to prepare for self-adjustment after stopping the drug.
Relying only on drugs or doctors, you can't be addicted to gambling, and you mainly rely on yourself to make changes.
2. Train the ability to delay gratification
The reason why gambling is so powerful satisfies one of people's psychological characteristics - timely satisfaction is to get what you want at the moment.
Deferred gratification is the ability to control our ability to give up our present choices for a more valuable long-term outcome.
Gambling is a very frequent form of timely gratificationEvery round is a thrill that makes the most of the weakness of the human heart, people can be cool immediately - bet to win, win money to spend. And what about work? It takes a month to get an income, and the waiting time for learning is even longer, which can take years or even more than ten years.
But we can resist the momentary gratification that comes with gambling by training our ability to delay gratification.
1.Pay attention to transfer: Diversify your life and develop more hobbies. In behaviors where pleasure is easily obtained, divert your attention and not allow yourself to be immersed in it.
2.Impulse control: Stipulate that when making a decision or acting impulsively, you should have a certain amount of time to think and calm down.
3.Goal setting and planning: Setting small goals for a big goal and decomposing satisfaction is a gradual transformation process.
4.Relaxation exercises: Spend some time each day doing deep breathing, abdominal breathing, meditation, and contemplation. It works just like a drug, stabilizing mood.
3. Expand the scope of knowledge
In gambling, people will have cognitive narrowing, which is like a decrease in intelligence, and they are unable to think rationally.
People who have lost their cognition at the table have also lost their dignity, and do not regard themselves as people with advanced thinking, but only make simple choices such as big or small, banker or idle, lose or win.
Out of the casino, this cognitive narrowness will also continue into life:
There is no turning back but gambling
People have given up on me, and they can only give up on themselves
The only way to make money is to gamble
Therefore, the important thing is to broaden the cognitive channel and not let yourself see one-sided information.
Take up other hobbies, go out and talk more with your family.
With an accepting mentality, accept the accusations or ridicule of anyone, especially your family, but please believe that your family may be disappointed in you, but will not really give up on you, naturally, you should also use your own changes to repay their trust and tolerance.
What is the original intention of gambling: greed, desire.
No one can control desires, all we can control is the process of satisfying desires.
Try to quit gambling and change your life now! Don't think about how much you've already lost, throw away the costs that have sunk, and think about what you can gain by starting to change from now on.