Also wearing school uniforms, the teacher can see at a glance what the family background is, and the reason is realistic and heart-piercing
My cousin is a junior high school homeroom teacher, and something like this happened in her class the other day:
The girl Xiao A accidentally knocked Xiao B's cup off the ground, causing Xiao B's cup lid to crack a small crack, and the cup began to leak, and the cup could no longer be used without changing the cup lid, Xiao B was very angry at the time, saying that this was a gift from his mother, Xiao A said disapprerovitously: "It's just a cup, I'll pay you one tomorrow!" ”
This matter reached the ears of my cousin, the head teacher, and my cousin called Xiao A's parents as soon as possible and informed them of the incident.
It turned out that Xiao B's cup was a limited edition of a high-end brand that his mother bought back from Hong Kong, worth more than 2,000 yuan!
When Xiao A learned the price of the cup, she was instantly petrified, she couldn't have imagined that Xiao B, who is usually low-key, was so rich that a casual water cup cost more than 2,000.
Although his parents can afford to pay for it, for a family with a monthly income of several thousand, this is almost half of the monthly living expenses of his family.
Later, the cousin negotiated with Xiao B's parents, and finally found the manufacturer to order the original cup lid and helped Xiao A solve this matter at the minimum cost.
My cousin said that even if the child wears the same school uniform, as a teacher, he can see at a glance what the family background is.
First of all, the supplies are different.
Children with good family backgrounds will not deliberately show off at all, and small things such as school bags, pencil cases, and accessories can be used to reveal their family background.
Secondly, there is a different attitude towards things.
My cousin said, for a simple example, a child from a very good family in the class, and a child from an average family, also wears a pair of shoes worth more than a thousand, and the child with an average family background is careful all day long, for fear that others will step on him and get his shoes dirty, and he will deliberately roll up his trouser legs high during physical education class, deliberately revealing his shoes.
And for the child from a good family, these shoes may be just the most ordinary pair of his many expensive shoes, and he will not show off anything because of this.
Finally, speech and demeanor are different from temperament.
In fact, the richer the family now, the more attention they pay to the education of their children from an early age, and they will invite the best teachers to cultivate their children's talents, and they also pay great attention to cultivating children's temperament and cultivation from an early age.
Of course, I don't mean that children from poor families have worse speech and behavior, but that children living in economically wealthy families will naturally have a broader vision and be more relaxed in the face of big scenes because of the different people and environments they have been exposed to since childhood.
Therefore, the poor pretend to be rich and the rich pretend to be poor, which can be seen at a glance.
However, many children nowadays, even though their family conditions are average, they have to let their parents use more than their financial ability to meet their material needs, just to satisfy their vanity, which is really completely unnecessary.
The saddest thing is that many parents obviously have an average income, but they advocate "rich children", and raise an ordinary child as a "rich second generation", and in the end, instead of satisfying the child's vanity, they spend money on raising their children without restraint and without gratitude.
In fact, as an ordinary family, we can strategically tell our children about our true financial situation and refuse to spend more than we can afford.
So, how can ordinary families discuss the family's financial situation with their children? Here are a few suggestions:
1.Make a discussion plan:
Before starting to discuss with their children, parents should discuss together what information can be shared with their children, such as what is their family's income each month, which of these incomes are used for family expenses, which are used for storage, which are used for financial management, etc., and let children know that in this way, the income can be managed by classification and make reasonable plans, so as to ensure the normal and orderly operation of the whole family's life, and give children a preliminary enlightenment of money management.
2.Choose the right environment:
The best time and place to discuss family finances with your child varies from family to family, and it is important to have the discussion in a relaxed environment and family atmosphere.
The topic can be introduced naturally in a family meeting or discussed in a relaxed dinner moment.
The key is to make sure that everyone is not in a hurry during the discussion and that there is enough time for the child to express their concerns and fears.
3.Consider the age of the child:
For children under the age of five, the concept of money can be introduced by explaining the value of different coins, the fact that parents work to earn money, and how money is used to pay for the needs of the family, among other things.
For children of primary school age, focus on the difference between "need" and "want" and ask children to think about the needs and wants of the family.
And for teens, parents need to properly explain the financial issues they may already be aware of and encourage them to get involved in the family's savings plan.
4.Stay positive:
When discussing the family's financial issues, it is crucial to maintain a positive attitude.
No matter how concerned the parents are, it is important for the child to feel that the parents are taking steps to solve the problem.
For example, if they are unemployed, parents can explain that as a result the family's expenses will be reduced, but at the same time they are actively looking for new job opportunities.
Of course, don't let your child feel that his family is poor and feel inferior in front of other children, and let him know that at their age, whether he is "rich" or not depends on the spirit, not the material.
5.Involve children in the solution:
Saving money can be turned into a family activity, inviting children to think about how to reduce expenses together. For example, if you can't afford a summer camp this year, you can come up with some other fun and free alternatives.
6.Think of it as an educational opportunity:
The family's financial difficulties can also be an opportunity to educate children. For example, when shopping, you can teach your child how to read labels and ** to determine which product is more cost-effective.
It can even be used to let children know that by studying hard, they can get into a better school, and they will have more opportunities to earn more money after entering the society.
7.Ongoing Conversations:
Discussing the family's finances with your child should not be a one-time event, and regular communication will give your child a sense of security and make him feel respected.
8.Cultivating Intimacy:
Under financial pressure, parents may feel guilty about their children, which is actually completely unnecessary, and what children need more is a good family atmosphere and a sense of security.
So no matter how busy parents are, remember to take time to spend with their children with a good mood, you can host family games or movie nights, cook together, read bedtime stories, do outdoor activities and other fun and free family activities, maintain the parent-child relationship, and let your child know that being together as a family is more important than anything else.
Although money is very important, many things cannot be bought, such as family, friendship, and kindness and sincerity, so we should let children know that poverty is not terrible, and there is no need to feel inferior, face life with an optimistic attitude, and actively work hard for their goals, everything will get better and better
Author: Wait for the wind to come.
A working mother of two children, holding a pen in her left hand and a baby in her right hand, she likes to read, write, draw, and firmly believe that even if she lives in a chicken feather, she must have her own poetry and distance in her heart.
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