Entering the thirties, don't do these two things, is the secret of Cao Cao's success
The first question I want to ask is, what is vitality? The author believes that the right enthusiasm must be driven by two factors: one is external pressure, and the other is internal motivation!
At the age of thirty, the vast majority of people are in a state of high external pressure and internal motivation, and at this time they should pay more attention to their own field of activity, because there is no room for realization, and no matter how high the vitality is, it is in vain! This situation is like Cao Cao's heroism, from the analysis of Cao Cao's success, people should try not to do this stage when they reach the age of thirty, they are bitter and tired!
First things first: don't interfere in other people's family affairs! Let's talk about Cao Cao first. When Cao Cao became one of the eight captains of the West Garden, Yuan Shao was the leader of the younger generation, so it was not Cao Cao's turn to be wild, Cao Cao almost became Yuan Shao's younger brother at this stage, and in order to protect himself, he lived a very hard, tiring, and helpless life.
At the same time, Yuan Shao also interfered in the family affairs of Emperor Ling of Han. Because he was promoted by the general He Jin, he became He Jin's right-hand man. He Jin's sister was Empress He, the biological mother of Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty. Emperor Xian of Han's biological mother was Wang, but she was poisoned by Empress He. This made Emperor Han Ling very angry, because he was afraid that Emperor Han Xian would be killed again, so he first protected Emperor Han Xian, and then began to make trouble in the He family, and the first one to deal with was of course the general He Jin!
Because He Jin was an excellent general, Emperor Xian of Han used the tense war in Xiqiang to transfer him elsewhere. Just when He Jin was puzzled, Yuan Shao gave He Jin a trick: under the pretext that there are too few soldiers, recruit troops and delay time! Of course, Emperor Han Ling died soon! The young Emperor Xian of Han ascended the throne! Yuan Shao was immediately appreciated for helping his master.
Yuan Shao interfered in the family affairs of Emperor Ling of Han and gave advice to himself. Cao Cao, on the other hand, remained silent, not because he was incompetent, but because he did not want to interfere, as evidenced by the following facts.
Does this remind you of Yuan Shao's refusal when Emperor Han Xian fled"Rescue"Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty, the scene of leaving Cao Cao by his side? It is true that Yuan Shao later killed the eunuchs, crusaded against Dong Zhuo under the slogan of supporting Emperor Shao of the Han Dynasty (He Jin), and even said in his speech on the crusade against Dong Zhuo that Dong Zhuo overthrew the emperor.
He did not recognize Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty who was supported by Dong Zhuo, because it meant depriving his master of the honor, just like Yuan Shao assisted Liu Yu! Why did Yuan Shao give up"coerce the Son of Heaven to order the princes"Chances? That's the deeper reason!
And because Cao Cao is neutral, he is completely light, unconstrained, and has no prejudices, so he can grasp the opportunity well and make decisions quickly!
While we can't judge heroes by success or failure, there are certainly benefits to working in someone else's family business for someone else in their 30s! But what are the consequences of this favoritism? Yuan Shao lost room for maneuver because his capital was Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty (He Jin). And what about us ordinary people? The room for maneuver is still shrinking, and once the room for maneuver is lost, what kind of courage can we talk about?
One more point: when faced with non-coercive requests, it should be said"Nope"When he said"Nope"！Be as vague as possible!
By the age of 30, most people will have colleagues or friends. Cao Cao also has, in addition to Yuan Shao, there is also an important person, that is Xu You! Later, he almost decided the Battle of Guandu.
In the same year, when Cao Cao was thirty years old, he received a letter from Xu You, asking him to kill Emperor Han Ling with him when Emperor Ling of Han went to Jizhou and proclaim Hefei as the new emperor. Cao Cao made his opposition clear in his reply, and solemnly advised Xu You that even Huo Guang of the Western Han Dynasty had encountered such an outstanding emperor, so he would stop joking and do whatever he had to do!
However, Xu Yu was angry and joined forces with Jizhou Assassin Shi Wang Fen and others. Fortunately, the good news came that Emperor Ling of Han canceled the trip, Wang Fen committed suicide, and Xu You escaped for the time being. Why does the author say that Cao Cao had no intention of interfering in the family affairs of Emperor Ling of Han? Looking at his resolute rejection of Xu Yu at the age of 30, you know that Cao Cao is a very realistic and down-to-earth person. Cao Cao is a very realistic, down-to-earth person. This is also the reason why even though he has endured a lot of hardships, he still knows how to be self-reliant and never self-indulgent!
Cao Cao's rejection of Xu Yu is a clear rejection, a cautious attitude as a friend (colleague), and a typical rejection. It is conceivable that if Cao Cao is a little more ambiguous, I am afraid that he will not succeed, he will not only offend his friends, but also offend his colleagues, and be regarded as a brick family, which will be a stain that is difficult to wash.
In real life, such things happen from time to time, so a person in his thirties, no matter how hard and tired he is, he can't let himself be led by the nose by others and lose his way! Especially in the face of major rights and wrongs, we should refuse and exclude, and try not to be ambiguous. Because the slightest ambiguity will cause misunderstandings and even delusions on the other side, and then both sides will have nothing to say, and the field of action will be narrowed.
To sum up, both of these things are actually about"Field of activity"In one sentence, it can be summed up as: can support the bottom! As long as there is a bottom, the field of activity is meaningful. If you blindly expand downward, you may not be able to reach the height of life, but with the width of life, isn't it a positive and successful life?