When you enter middle age and see through Cao Cao, you should know that staying away from these three types of people is beneficial to yourself and others
We all know that 40 years old is a mature and rational age, more rational and calm than 30 years old, and of course, it can also be seen that there is less passion and pressure. At this age, many people will have a feeling of melancholy, not only because of this age, but also because at this age, many people have accumulated various savings"Live for yourself"of the capital.
Even if there is a compromise, even if there is a long-term psychological estrangement, when the time comes, a 40-year-old will make a decision on the spot. During this period, people in their thirties are afraid to do this, because they are still in the period of struggle or ascent. It was also during this period that Cao Cao should distance himself from these three kinds of people! Let's talk about the first type of people first!
First of all, he is arrogant and looks down on his subordinates: for example, You Heng! Cao Cao has never been in the habit of taking the initiative to discover talents. Even great talents like Guo Jia (recommended by Xun Yu) and Sima Yi (forced to be helpless) will only be considered by Cao Cao when they are in front of Cao Cao. This is the difference between Cao Cao and Liu Bei. It can also be said that Cao Cao's self-confidence will not lose its value, after all"Han Chamber"(Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty) in his hands.
At Kong Rong's suggestion, You Heng could have summoned Cao Cao, but You Heng was too arrogant and looked down on Cao Cao and was unwilling to serve Cao Cao. The question is, if You Heng is such a person, why does he say himself in "Parrot Fu"."Close the cage and cut the feathers. Yu can't show his talents"This? Isn't this another manifestation of your career aspirations?
So I think that when Kong Rong strongly recommended You Heng to give Cao Cao ideas, it was very likely that You Heng wanted Cao Cao to look down on him, after all, You Heng was very young at the time, only twenty years old. But it's a pity that Cao Cao is now 43 years old, and even without Emperor Han Xian by his side, the possibility of Cao Cao giving in is zero, so Cao Cao decided to temporarily curb You Heng's arrogance: Aren't you good at playing drums? Then let's start playing the drums.
Under Cao Cao's call, You Heng had every reason not to be willing to go out, or even leave. Cao Cao would not force him to come as he did with Sima Yi, because he did not have the background of a large family. But he not only came, but also fought"Naked drumming", obviously not to see Cao Cao.
Cao Cao laughed and laughed at himself'I wanted to humiliate this child, but he was there to humiliate me. Cao Cao was still young at the time, and he was even angrier than You Heng, and You Heng dared to use a sword to make Xu Shao evaluate himself! Therefore, he was not comforted in his heart. But Kong Rong may be worried that You Heng will recite this passage when he comes back: You Heng is crazy again, You Heng can't be so crazy, Cao Cao is in the name of the Han family after all!
You Heng then decides to apologize to Cao Cao, but Cao Cao realizes that You Heng really likes him and just wants him to understand him. Unfortunately, You Heng sat down in front of Cao Cao's tent and began to curse Cao Cao - is this an apology? Is this an apology? This is clearly trying to make trouble for himself, even to the point of killing himself!
Cao Cao was made fun of and was very angry, and finally decided to give You Heng to Liu Biao. The meaning is very clear, if you don't see me, why be together? It's better to keep your distance. For this reason, You Heng insulted Liu Biao again, sent him to Huang Zu, and killed him.
Cao Cao's attitude towards You Heng, who is arrogant and does not regard himself as a man, is mature and calm, reflecting the behavior of a 40-year-old man, giving each other space and keeping a distance, how can they hurt each other like two hedgehogs?
The second is those who say"I have been of great grace to him"people! This is the case with Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty! Although Cao Cao is the king of heaven, who can deny that Cao Cao has great kindness to Emperor Xian of Han? When Emperor Han Xian needed help, it was Cao Cao who came to the rescue!
After Cao Cao welcomed Emperor Han Xian into the customs, he was respectful to Emperor Han Xian, and Emperor Han Xian was grateful to Cao Cao, and even issued an edict to reprimand Yuan Shao for saving him in danger, forcing Yuan Shao to express his position'Cao Cao is really my brother, if he saves you, I will save him. But the problem is, we all know that resentment is common when a lot of things are involved"Benefits"The boundaries of resentment become very blurred.
During the Three Kingdoms period, it was normal for Cao Cao to seize power, even if Emperor Liu Bei of the Han Dynasty seized the world, wouldn't he surrender obediently, after all, could Guan Yu and Zhang Fei get along? Liu Bei is not a person! Just like Cao Cao, he is not human, but he represents great power.
This, of course, would have caused a dispute with Emperor Xian of Han, so before Cao Cao decided to conquer Zhang Xiu, because he had to report to Emperor Xian of Han, when he arrived, he was greeted by"Neck hanging spear"The samurai, that is, Cao Cao had a ** around his neck and was escorted to Emperor Xian of Han, because it was"The Ancien Régime"Part of! Here it is"Old system"。At that time, Cao Cao was so frightened that he was sweating profusely, and he didn't know what he said to Emperor Han Xian. Since then, Cao Cao has never returned to the territory of Emperor Xian of the Han Dynasty, and the relationship between them has become more and more cold.
So, why did Emperor Han Xian suddenly give Cao Cao this trick? Obviously, the so-called"Old system"It doesn't make sense. Look at Dong Cheng, Liu Bei and others, with the acquiescence of Emperor Han Xian, they planned an anti-Cao Cao conspiracy, which is actually a sentence from Emperor Han Xian to Cao Cao:"You've done me a great favor, but don't interfere with my rule anymore, okay? I am the Emperor!
That's why a 40-year-old needs to talk to those"I have a big favor to help with"of people keep their distance. Because this actually puts a lot of pressure on the other party, and when combined with the effect of other interests, it will become hostile, that is, stammering.
Thirdly, people of great fame! Liu Bei is an example! Whether it is "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" or "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", Liu Bei's reputation is very good! I have already said that Cao Cao made the right decision to let Liu Bei go! Today, we're going to focus on that"The word of mouth is excellent"。
The person who can do this, who can hardly find the fault of his opponents and enemies, is undoubtedly a terrible figure. If I were dealing with such a character, if it was an ordinary person, after a single dispatch, there would only be two effects.
First, you will be attracted and lose yourself before you know it. Second, you will realize that the person is one"Very deep, very ** people"。Even if you realize this, you can't avoid it because will others believe what you say? But do you have the courage to speak out? Can you leave safely?
In fact, Liu Bei is in this situation, of course, if the other party is a hero, then it is a different matter, because that looks smart! But the thing is, life is very realistic! Therefore, when you meet someone who is famous, it is better to keep your distance for the time being and calm down.