Love is deep and long-lived, and strong is humiliating. Recently, a group of ** has caused widespread discussion on the Internet. The protagonist of the story is an ordinary, if not disadvantaged, man who has no outstanding appearance, family background, and no significant talent.
But he has a special skill: he is good at attracting women's attention. His greatest achievement is to marry the school girl of his college days, a girl who is not only outstanding in appearance, excellent in academics, but also has high moral character.
When the school girl accepted his pursuit, many people felt incredible, and even described the relationship as "a good cabbage was arched by a pig". If the couple is able to maintain a happy and harmonious life, the people around them may also gradually accept their marriage. However, it backfired, and the man did not treat her well after marriage.
After a few years, the former school flower lost its former demeanor, became haggard, and her living conditions were not as good as before.
The couple's story sparked a heated discussion, especially when the man shared his wife's ** on social platforms, accompanied by disparaging texts, and many people were angry and disappointed by his actions, believing that he was not worthy of being a husband, let alone having such a good wife.
The story is a reflection of what does exist in real life. If you are in a similar situation, how should you cope with a relationship that is not cherished? First of all, you need to understand Lenz's law and realize that people don't know how to cherish until they lose.
Second, try to "simulate loss" to make the other person realize how important you are. Finally, the most important thing is to learn to value yourself.
True love should be based on mutual respect and cherishment. If none of these basic elements exist, then there is no point in continuing to maintain such a relationship.
Emotional investment does not always pay for itself, and blindly giving will only hurt oneself deeper. Therefore, when faced with a relationship that is not cherished, reflection and decisions should be made in a timely manner, and the needless wait should not be turned into deeper despair.
01: Apply Lenz's law
Static braking, slow braking. Lenz's law can be understood in the emotional world as a kind of wisdom of "acting at the right time and judging the situation". In the face of not valuing our own behavior, we can learn from this law and handle our emotional investment prudently.
When considering whether or not to accept someone, we should slow down and think deeply, rather than being easily swayed by temporary touches or passions. True love is not a momentary touch, but a deep emotion after a long period of understanding and mutual respect.
Let's be clear: being touched is not the same as true love. Mistaking a momentary touch for long-lasting love can lead to lifelong regret and pain. As the saying goes, the person who initially touches you can also end up being the one who hurts you the most.
In the real world, many people's sweet words and romantic actions are nothing more than a carefully woven drama designed to arouse your emotion and dependence, and once you fall into it, you may lose yourself and become the object of manipulation by others.
When you find yourself in love with someone who doesn't know how to cherish yourself, you might as well borrow the idea of Lenz's law to protect yourself. Stop giving meaninglessly, and stop letting the other person manipulate your emotions. Through the strategy of "come and refuse to stay", do not give the other party the opportunity to continue to hurt you.
In a relationship, there are some people who deserve your adaptation and compromise, while others are not worthy of your efforts and waiting. If a person belittles you in words and deeds, then he obviously does not value you, and his so-called touching of you is only to satisfy his own needs, without considering your feelings and happiness.
Therefore, in the face of uncherished relationships, we should learn to protect ourselves, not be blinded by momentary touches, distinguish between right and wrong, and ensure that our happiness is not manipulated by others. True love should be based on mutual respect and cherishment, without these, even more touching is only a flash in the pan, not worth your wait and sacrifice.
02: Simulated loss
The response is like thunder, and the action is like the wind. When faced with harm and injustice, your first reaction is crucial. If you choose to tolerate, compromise, or remain silent, then you are actually acquiescing in the other person's behavior, whether it is disrespect, uncherishment, or indifference.
All this requires you to be sensitive and not overly tolerant or self-sacrificing. Many situations are not formed on the spur of the moment, but are the result of long-term accumulation.
When you first feel neglected or not cherished by the other person, try to "simulate loss". It means leaving your familiar surroundings and relationships for a while, taking with you everything you cherish, and showing that you have the courage and determination to leave. Don't think you can't do it, or think you can't live without him. Giving yourself too many excuses will only make the other person keep breaking your heart severely.
In some cases, your decisive actions can have a powerful impact. Blind venting of emotions will not help improve the situation, but should turn sadness into strength, and counter and balance the wrongdoing of the other party through concrete actions.
While it may be painful and unfair to take such action, when you are faced with a difficult situation, there should be no more scruples. Through action, you can gradually stabilize your emotions and develop a stronger and courageous mindset.
Just dwelling on self-pity and low emotions will not solve anything, but will only make you feel more hopeless and regretful. Emotional reactions don't make any real difference, real power comes from action, which is the key to solving problems and the best way to show your stance and determination.
03: Cherish yourself
Self-respect and self-love show character. When you sense that the people around you are no longer pouring love and care into you, the first thing to do is to learn self-respect and self-cherishing.
No matter how others treat you, it is always crucial to maintain your self-worth and dignity. This is not only a responsibility for oneself, but also a need for life.
When others are neglected, you should take more care of yourself. Valuing yourself is not difficult, it can start with a few simple actions: First, focus on and maintain your personal image, and don't let the daily chores wear down your brilliance.
Even if life is ordinary, you should maintain your elegance and self-confidence; secondly, put more care and effort into yourself and your family members, and reduce the unworthy contribution to the outside world; Again, put your energy into work and personal development, allowing your growth and success to be the best response to those who don't value you.
In the face of neglect or contempt from others, the right thing to do is to show yourself as strong rather than wallowing in self-pity or frustration. Your positive attitude and self-improvement will not only earn you more respect, but will also bring new opportunities and happiness to your life.
When you find that you can't get the care and love you deserve from someone, being brave enough to cut ties with them and letting go of those who are no longer giving you positive energy is often the starting point of a new life. Don't be nostalgic for the fruitless past, bravely step into a new life, and regain your former glory and elegance. Remember, you deserve better people and deeper love.
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