There is an old song that says: "There are some points of love that can be explained clearly, and some points that are confused and confused; There is a little bit of warmth, and a little bit of astringency and sourness. ”In the past, I liked beautiful melodies, and I was also a person in the song when I listened to it.
I once swore to God that I would be romantic for a lifetime. Suddenly looking back, I found that all the vows were no match for the vicissitudes of the years, and before I could be romantic, I was already old.
After the age of 60, the rest of my life is more and more precious. Even walking hand in hand is better than walking alone.
Fortunately, we can always find the "model couples" around us, who explain love with their actions, and also tell us a truth: no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, they must take the initiative to "pretend to be confused".
First, do things: good or bad endings, you have to praise.
There was a time when my mother went to change her ID. I went there twice in a row, but it didn't work out, and my mother was very angry. My father said, "I'm getting old, how much time do I have?" Besides, there is a free bus card, and you don't need money to take the bus, so why be angry. ”
In my father's view, running a few more times is to enrich my life and take advantage of the public.
When we are sixty years old, our ability to do things is a little worse, and many of the rules of doing things are often half-understood after learning several times, and it is completely unnecessary for husband and wife to blame each other together.
You must understand that the person who has been with you the longest in the world is not your parents or children, but your wife. My wife has a lot of troubles, and the original intention is good, don't blame him.If you often talk about "hard work", your wife will be very happy. After all, there is no merit, there is also hard work. Sweat is crystal clear and has temperature.
The good and the bad are all praised, which shows that you have such wisdom - look at people's strengths and don't expose people's weaknesses.
Second, dialogue: whether it's right or wrong, don't be reasonable.
There is such a question: what should a man do if a woman chatters?
The most tender reply is: kiss it.
Don't forget, our mouths have multiple functions. Speaking is just one of them. You can also eat, drink, and kiss. If you make good use of the function of your mouth, then your wife will get along with you and there will be a lot of tenderness, which will be embarrassing on the surface, but will actually leave happy flowers in your heart.
During the conversation, once there is a dispute, or someone turns over old accounts, then quickly switch the role of "mouth". Shut up, you can make the other party talk a lot, and then the other party will be bored talking alone, and the house will be quiet.
No one is cursing at a wall all the time. Therefore, the ultimate winner is the wall.
When you go out, you have reason to travel all over the world; When you go home, you have to give way if you have a reason. Don't always put the big truth in a small home, you have to be confused, be less reasonable, and be more emotional.
Third, housework: men and women, don't distinguish between you and me.
In "Youth School", her husband Lin Dawei is honest and honest, and his wife Wang Shengnan has a short temper and loves cleanliness.
Wang Shengnan always roared and said: "Don't squeeze the toothpaste from the middle; Change your pants diligently; When you get up, fold the quilt; The eating posture should be good-looking.
Lin Dawei agreed, but then forgot about it. After all, accustomed to the life of "outside the male lead, inside the female lead", men must focus on making money.
When they are young, men and women have to divide their responsibilities because they have different responsibilities. But after the age of 60, if there is still a clear division of labor, it is "bullying".
Everyone is retired, there is no rank, and there is still the idea of "men are superior to women", which is not right.
Husband and wife do housework together, you buy vegetables and come to me to cook, I mop the floor and you wash the dishes, things are not difficult, what is difficult is the attitude of being a person, a good mood.
Therefore, in housework, the boundaries between people should be blurred, and there should be no competition.
It really doesn't have to, let the housework trivialities break the balance of people's hearts and overturn the good life.
Fourth, travel: no matter how bad the scenery is, it will not be disappointing.
Many elderly people like to travel, and they go out for many days.
After seeing the water of the Yellow River, crossing the bridge of the Yangtze River, and then going to Yunnan to see the white clouds.
In fact, if you see too much scenery, you will get tired of it, and you will feel similar. Especially the elderly who are not in good health, it is very uncomfortable to go out.
The poet said, "You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people who look at the scenery look at you from upstairs." ”
Think about it carefully, the mountains are high and the people are the peaks; The beauty of the water is the scenery.
When you take pictures, if you don't have a lover in the scenery, you feel like "a trip for nothing". This kind of perception means that you have truly felt the scenery.
When you are young, as long as there is you in the family, the loess will also turn into gold; When you are old, as long as you are in your eyes, the loess is also beautiful;If you look at the scenery in a daze, you won't complain; With a lover in your eyes, you don't care about the scenery. Anywhere, it's going to be pleasant.
Fifth, decide: if the three views do not agree, they can also be respected.
The Ming Dynasty writer Ling Mengchu wrote about a man named Yuan Zishi, who was born in the last years of the Yuan Dynasty. At that time, when the war was raging, he and his wife moved from Shandong to Fujian.
There is a ** Miao Qianhu in Fujian, and before becoming an official, he borrowed three hundred taels of silver from Yuan Zishi. For this reason, Yuan Zishi came to the door many times to urge, but the other party failed to pay the debt and never gave it.
At the beginning, his wife kept forcing Yuan Zishi to beg for it, but later when she saw the facts, she didn't say anything anymore. In order to make a living, Yuan Zishi decided to move to Funing again and started a business.
The husband sings and the wife follows, and the days are getting more and more prosperous. If both people have to be in charge, it is a pattern of "one mountain does not tolerate two tigers".
On the road of life, there are always such and such decisions. Couples can't be 100% on the same page. At this time, you must learn to respect, and if you don't want to, don't say it.
For example, when it comes to raising grandchildren, the wife is very keen and wants to help her children, but the husband is reluctant and thinks that the children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. At this time, the husband is a little confused, and the wife is happy.
To put it bluntly, many couples have lived their lives by accommodating, how can they really "empathize".
Nietzsche said, "Human life cannot be measured by the length of time, when the heart is full of love, the moment is eternal." ”At the beginning, I needed someone I liked, a thousand years at a glance. Love is frozen in an instant. As the years go by, you don't forget the "original intention", let alone a vest.
Suddenly looking back, I tasted the flavors of life, and after years and years, you are still by my side.
Looking forward to the future, because of love, everything is happy, and it can still be crazy for you at any time.