Before reading this article, I sincerely invite you to click "Follow", which is not only convenient for you to discuss and share, but also brings you a different sense of participation, thank you for your support.
With the sustained development of the economy, China's material life has been guaranteed, and people's basic needs are hardly a problem. At the same time, however, there is another problem: the aging of the population.
Even though food and clothing are no longer difficult, the lack of spirit is getting worse and worse. Sixty-one percent of the elderly in China are over 60 years old, and 49 percent of them are empty nesters.
** and the community to make certain changes to the elderly care model, encourage children to go home more to take care of, accompany the elderly. Admittedly, to a certain extent, it has worked, but the psychology of the elderly has undergone a subtle change - they have begun to fear their children.
This phenomenon is not uncommon, and casual chatting with colleagues will reveal that many elderly people do not dare to make too many demands, humble and cautious, and only promise.
This is a strange event, our country has advocated filial piety since ancient times, and the appearance of the elderly today has something to do with the disrespect of contemporary young people to them?
Not really. It is true that some parents did not pay enough attention to their children when they were young, and they would scold or even punch and kick them when they encountered trivial things.
When the child grows up, becomes an adult, and grows old, there is no way. This caution has the weakness of the heart back then, and it is an instinctive reaction to protect yourself.
However, due to the limitations of physiological development, the cells of the brain move from maturation to aging. Memory, speech, and behavior showed different levels of deterioration. I can't find my way, I repeat the same thing many times, and I don't remember it. This is starting to happen to parents.
After realizing that they can't do it, they will spontaneously develop a sense of not daring to offend, and if the children take advantage of the situation to oppress their parents, then this emotion will turn into fear.
Therefore, at this critical moment, children should let their parents relax, resolve their inner anxiety with tenderness and companionship, and let them establish a sense of security: even if I am old, my son and daughter will be the strongest support behind me.
Do all families fear their children? What families don't do that?
Not all families fear their children. From an objective point of view, it is a very strange phenomenon that the older generation is afraid of the next generation, and it is even a little abnormal.
This is rarely the case in families with decent incomes and warm and happy families, where it is not difficult to satisfy the material pursuits of the little ones, and they can get the lollipops or chocolates they want with just a few fingers or a run.
When children grow up, they are worried about the love and kindness of their parents, and they will be treated equally and will be given back to their parents. It is not difficult to see that education at an early age is very important, it is the cornerstone of children's growth, and it is the foundation of the road to the future.
On the other hand, lower-income families often have four to five children, and it is not easy to take care of each one. As a result, it is not uncommon for children to be beaten up for a piece of candy, and it is not uncommon to nag all day because the bucket is broken.
Children who grow up in such an environment have low self-esteem, are sensitive, and do not receive the respect they deserve, and it is difficult for them to give more than anything in return to their parents when they grow up. In other words, it is already benevolent and righteous to let them live the same life as themselves.
We don't want our good family happiness to turn into a miserable debt repayment tragedy, what can we do to avoid this?
First of all, everything is foreseen, and everything that is not prepared is wasted. Stopping it at the root before it happens is the safest and safest way to do it. When dealing with young children, parents should give them selfless love and devotion with love and respect as much as possible.
Don't break up because of a trivial matter, manage the relationship between children with understanding and tolerance, let children be imperceptibly influenced by themselves, and treat people in life with sincerity.
Secondly, stop the loss in time and stop the internal friction. If it's too late to stop it, calm down, accept the status quo, and focus on how to make up for it.
Things in the past have happened, no matter what you do, you can't change it, if you keep dwelling on the past, in addition to increasing mental internal friction, it may also exacerbate the conflict of your children.
The older generation can find a time to have a good chat with their children, talk about it, and untie the knot with their children. If you are powerless, or the conflict has risen to the point where you are incompatible, you can ask the mediator of the community neighborhood committee or the police from the police station to intervene to deal with it.
Except for life-related events, the gap between parents and children will not be difficult to break.
Finally, neither humble nor arrogant, go with the flow. Do your best within your ability, and if there's really no other way, find another way.
The bridge is naturally straight from the bow of the boat, and perhaps the last thing that leaves us is not the original wide road, but behind the narrow passage may be hidden paradise.
Love children with principles, not pampered, not doting; Dependence on children is not excessive, not humble, not ashamed. Be generous, reasonable, and always be respected.
Due to the rules of the platform, you will only be recognized as a fan if you have more interaction with me. If you like my articles, you can click "Follow" and receive the article push as soon as you become a fan.