The process of growth is the process of continuous awakening of awareness, which can be divided into the following three stages.
1.Hindsight. At this stage, we always lose our temper first when we encounter things, or manifest various emotions, and we are not aware of it, and only afterwards do we know that what we have just done is incredible. At this time, we are basically dominated by the subconscious. As mentioned in the previous article, the bottom of the iceberg is the subconscious, and 90% of our beliefs are under the iceberg. As soon as something in the outside world triggers our emotional switch, emotions arise immediately, and we don't know why. In hindsight, we will also attribute all mistakes to the outside world and think that it is all your fault. You're going to change. Until one day, someone tells us that we are the root of all problems ...
2.Be aware. At this stage, we know that all problems are caused by ourselves.
So I began to consciously perceive it.
When we encounter something, in the process of losing our temper, we can be aware of our own behavior, and we can stop in time and return our attention to ourselves.
At this time, our body's awareness begins to awaken. We start looking inward at where our emotions are. As we become more and more aware, we will be able to find some of our emotions, and we will become more and more real, such as expressing them to our children or husbands, this is my own emotions that have nothing to do with you, not your fault. To be able to do this is very brave. But at this stage, you still can't look completely inward. So they still want to change each other. Or hope that the other party can change with you, so that the effect will be a little better. Of course, the results are always unsatisfactory because others can't change them. The more you try to change others, the more they feel unaccepted, and without acceptance there is no change. 3.Prophetic foresight.
Through the previous constant awareness, we have found the root of many of the emotional switches in the body. As a result, we are able to realize that we may have a certain emotion before encountering something similar, and we can perceive and avoid unnecessary conflicts before we encounter similar emotions. This is prophetic foresight. At this stage, we look more and more inward, and our intention to change others becomes less and less. If you look inward, you will be able to be with your heart, see the trauma of the past, and accompany her, and the injured child will be healed.
Because we see, we are compassionate.
Compassion starts to arise at this time, and when we see others, we try to empathize with them. At this time, the other party felt accepted, so the changes of both people quietly came. My own experience tells me that there are several stages that we all go through.
It is not until the end of the process of really looking inward that our vitality slowly returns. It's not easy, but it's joy when you grow up. So be brave. What stage are you in now? Welcome to leave a message**