Since ancient times, China's culture has advocated the golden mean, Confucius said: "The middle is also the great foundation of the world; And those who are also the road of the world. To neutralize, heaven is in the ascendancy, and all things are nurtured. What it emphasizes is that everything has a degree, and if it is too much, things will be reversed. Between cowardice and recklessness is bravery, between stinginess and extravagance is generosity, between humility and pride is modesty, between perverseness and comical is funny, between indecision and impulsive willfulness is self-restraint. So, keeping just the right middle position is a very smart thing for a woman to do.
When people get along with each other and keep the hedgehog warm, it will produce beauty and bring long-term companionship. "The light rain in the sky street is as moist as a crisp, and the grass color is close but there is none. "It reflects a pleasant green beauty from a distance, but up close it is just sparse grass. A wise woman knows that the human heart is unpredictable, and it is necessary to leave a space for each other's souls to dance, and many things will be regretted because they see the essence of things clearly, and only by keeping it just right, will they see and appreciate beauty.
Keep just the right distance
We spend our whole lives breaking free from other people's expectations and becoming our true selves. In the face of endless requests from leaders, colleagues, relatives and friends, smart women know how to refuse, and they dare to say "no". However, the state of many people is: to die to save face and live to suffer. They endure humiliation for the sake of the so-called face, and would rather suffer losses than save face, as if in this way they can make themselves look down on others and be more dignified in the eyes of those around them. This is not the case, and the result of this will make people have to give up the basic principles they adhere to in the world, and the loss of principles and bottom line is worthless.
The ancients said: The friendship of gentlemen is as light as water. Whether it is a parent-child relationship, a sibling relationship or a friend relationship, a lover relationship or a leader and colleague relationship, if you are too close, you will find many flaws, and once you cross the boundary and break through the bottom line of the other party, it will make people feel uneasy. Say no to boring parties and read a few pages at your leisure; Say no to awkward chats without nutrition and enjoy alone time. All quiet and orderly life stems from the rejection of a chaotic life; All pioneering self-consciousness is the renunciation of stagnation.
Some people say: people get along with people like flying a kite, the line is too long to break, too short to fly, moderate adjustment of the distance, will fly higher and farther. Everything has a scale, everyone wants a comfortable space for themselves, and a smart woman will stand at the edge of this space, keep it intimacy, and make herself and others feel comfortable, which is just the right distance.
Put in just the right amount of effort
A life without dreams is superficial, and a life with only dreams is also superficial. Having a dream and putting just the right amount of effort into it will make life full of meaning and color. Successology is often preached, and the harder you work, the more successful you are. According to this theory, sanitation workers should be paid well, because they get up early and are greedy for darkness, facing the scorching sun in summer and blowing biting cold winds in winter, and work very hard, much harder than the white-collar workers of government agencies and enterprises, but they do not meet the definition of success. Just the right effort is a kind of wisdom, because the value of effort is not the undifferentiated labor condensed on it, but also depends on demand and substitutability.
The efforts of smart women focus on finding irreplaceable properties and cultivating and improving their core competencies. They learn certain skills that allow them to grow, skills that can lead to change and leapfrogging through accumulation. Due to the different degrees of mastery of the same skill, it can be divided into the gap between the levels of Xiaobai, rookie, old bird, expert, and ashes, and each effort to improve a level is a leap for the individual. Some skills are difficult to accumulate, such as couriers and delivery workers, so unless they are in a hurry to start their life path with a little initial capital, smart women will not be engaged in these jobs for long.
Smart women are good at using their brains to fight for their own world in their careers, but even if they are shrewd**, she also knows that she only leaves that face at work, and knows that it is more sensible than shouting with a straight face to be tender like water, and they strive to balance the relationship between family and career. They are not lacking in pursuit but know how to be satisfied, elegant and romantic but not ostentatious, maintain just the right amount of effort, be appreciated by others more, know how to enjoy life, and are also good at managing their own lives.
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