Blind date is no longer a simple individual choice, but has evolved into a comprehensive social and economic activity.
Xiao Wang, a 35-year-old guy from Hangzhou, is a 35-year-old executive of a state-owned enterprise who owns two properties with an annual salary of 100,000 yuan. Although he has been actively pursuing, he has suffered repeated setbacks in the blind date market.
In a recent blind date, Xiao Wang met a girl she liked, the girl is 1.68 meters tall, and her income is comparable to Xiao Wang's, she has both the elegance of the workplace and the wisdom of financial management. When they first met, the conversation between the two was thriving, as if everything was going in a good direction. However, a small action of the girl made Xiao Wang's heart flutter.
It turned out that when she went home that night, the girl showed Xiao Wang a detailed breakdown of the family's daily expenses through an electronic document, which was like a "debt collection book for the cost of living", from basic living expenses to non-fixed expenses, as high as 9,900 yuan per month, making Xiao Wang fall from the clouds into the quagmire of reality in an instant.
The girl explained that this was only the average monthly fixed expenses for the two of them, and that there were many more non-regular expenses that were not taken into account and did not include additional expenses for parents and children. He also said that Xiao Wang is a local, and some of the expenses are borne by his parents. And there are many married female colleagues around her, and in her communication with them, she has a clear understanding of married life: the cost of living cannot be calculated carefully, because it will be very scary.
I don't know if this list is scary, but Xiao Wang was really scared.
Although he immediately said that he is currently living in his parents' house, both houses are rented, and he can cope with various living expenses in the future.
However, the girl who has a detailed plan for her future life proposed that she hoped that Xiao Wang would take an annual salary of 200,000 yuan as a new goal.
Faced with the woman's expectations, Xiao Wang felt a lot of pressure, and finally the two broke up amicably.
We must admit that now the cost of living is rising, and the annual salary of 100,000 yuan seems to be a lot, but in a first-tier city like Hangzhou, I am afraid it is difficult to meet the needs of a family. This is also what the girl wants Xiao Wang to understand, individuals should continue to work hard for the future of themselves and their families to improve their economic strength.
It's just that I didn't expect the goal of "200,000 yuan per year" to make Xiao Wang feel huge pressure. In the end, the two chose to break up amicably, which may be the best ending acceptable to both parties. But it also reflects a reality - in the market of marriage, the economic base determines the superstructure.
We can't help but ask, in the city of Hangzhou, is it high or low? Is Xiao Wang's self-confidence built on solid soil, or is he just comforting himself on a crumbling cliff?
On this issue, netizens have divided opinions, some think this is enough, others think it is far from enough.
If we look at the data, the average wage level and consumption index in Hangzhou may give us some answers. But I have to say that our Xiao Wang is not only facing a game of numbers, but also an expectation of the quality of life in the future.
Some netizens said that they didn't expect that the monthly consumption expenditure after marriage would be so much, and the actual views of girls are reasonable. Indeed, we can understand the woman's concerns, after all, marriage is not child's play, and the cost of living for two people is by no means a simple 1+1.
Xiao Wang's story is a true portrayal of many young people in Hangzhou. While pursuing love, he is also striving for the quality of life. In this story, we see how money and emotions affect each other in modern society. Blind date is not only a spiritual encounter, but also a ** and planning for the future lifestyle.
Why does the consumption concept and marriage value in the blind date market seem so cold now? The reason may be related to our social background, the current economic situation, housing price fluctuations, future education costs, and the pressures of an aging society are all silently affecting everyone's future planning.
If it's just two people living simply, the annual salary of 200,000 yuan for the young couple may be fine, but what if they have children in the future? You must know that in a city like Hangzhou, the cost of raising a child is very high, the child's early milk powder diapers, interest classes after school, these expenses are not a small amount, marriage has a cost, married life is to have economic expenditures, so we can't criticize the reality of girls.
Moreover, in the traditional concept of "male dominance, female dominance", male students are responsible for supporting the family, if the male salary is not high, then there will be a lot of conflicts between husband and wife because of the problem of money, no matter how deep the relationship, I am afraid that it will eventually break down. Marriage and life need a material foundation, and our life is not a TV series, nor is it in a vacuum.
Marriage is not only a union of two hearts, but also a thoughtful consideration of two rational adults for their future life together. In this process, we should not ignore the concerns of either party, whether it is financial considerations or emotional desires.
In the face of love, money is just a bunch of cold numbers, but reality likes to use it to test couples.
For Xiao Wang's experience, we might as well look at it more tolerantly. The economic foundation is the foundation of life, love depends on feelings, marriage can not only look at feelings, after all, everyone's expectations for marriage are different, and they should not be evaluated by a single standard.