I watched a live broadcast of a family education blogger, and I met parents to ask questions, which was very funny, and it was really not a joke: my son was beaten up during the New Year, and then he was very angry, saying that what you do to me now, when I grow up, I will treat you. Then the parents felt that something was wrong, so they came to ask the blogger, how to dispel this idea of their son? The blogger said that he said that it was no problem, why should he dispel it? The parents directly admitted that if he treats us with this in the future, will we still be able to live in our old age?The blogger sprayed on the spot, saying that you also know that this treatment makes you unable to live in your old age. So why do you think that this set of things can make children live in childhood? You don't want to change your behavior, you just want to increase the intensity of control, so that the child feels that being beaten by you is for his good, right?
Many people say that children have the shadow of their parents, which not only comes from their looks, but also from the imitation of their parents' every move, the repetition of their words and deeds. Minister of Education Chen Baosheng once said: "The scientific concept of education is to have a reasonable expectation of children. That is to say, if you want your child to do it, parents should do it first; If you want your child not to do it, parents don't do it first; If parents can't do it, never force their children to do it; What the child wants to do, the parent guides the child rationally. ”
Although the words are not long, they use the most straightforward language to explain the key to family education. Many times, the behavior of parents will be imperceptibly imprinted in the minds of children, and eventually affect their lives.
When children are still young and have not yet formed a concept of right and wrong about the world, parents' words and deeds are the benchmark for children. Children will continue to imitate their parents in the ears and eyes, from the character of a person, to the way of doing things, over time will be internalized into character and habits, with him throughout his life.
When children are older, even if they can distinguish between right and wrong behavior, in most cases, it will be difficult to escape the influence of the long-term environment, and they will eventually get close to their parents. Children's growth is an irreversible process, as the child's nurturer, parents should pay attention to their role model, be strict with themselves, know how to learn and reflect, correct bad habits, and lead by example.