Of course, this man is very muddy, but his words are not unreasonable, if the parties to the marriage can't maintain passion in this marriage and always snub each other, then when the needs are not met, it is when a third party appears. An affair is a developmental psychological problem. People who are having an affair lack the right sense of self and have no sense of responsibility.
People's lives are constantly evolving. From infancy to old age, people are always in a state of relative balance, and when you lose your balance, we call it mentally unhealthy. Developmental psychological problems manifest themselves in conceit or lack of self-confidence, cognitive errors, lack of goals, and so on, and these events are consistent with these three points. First of all, not everyone can have an affair casually, you already have a family, but if someone wants to establish another "love" with you, you must be attractive enough, so people who are having an affair must be conceited.
They are good at expressing themselves in front of others, they both show excellent aspects, and even they will exaggerate these things infinitely to attract others to focus on him. People who are having an affair have a natural belief in people's things - when love is lost, I should make it up for myself with "love", so this incident becomes an excuse to make up for myself.
In fact, it is a cognitive error that they not only fail to properly understand the exclusivity of love, that is, to deal with disharmony in love. They all say that the purpose of love is old, and when a person lacks the goal of responsibility, he will lose his responsibility to the lover in front of him and give his love to others, which is one of the reasons why we say that the cause of this is mental illness Xiaobai comes from an ordinary family, her family does not know much about filmmaking, and sees it more as a form of entertainment. Her parents often advised her to give up this dream of "not doing a job" and to find a stable job as soon as possible.
However, Xiaobai's love for filmmaking cannot be suppressed, and she is determined to stick to her dream without interference from the outside world. Noeline secretly raised her eyebrows, the other party must be so unscrupulous that it must be difficult to get along with. She had the idea of leaving.
At this time, you must communicate with the other party about this matter, mainly depending on the other party's attitude, if the other party says that you can disconnect contact with the extramarital affair partner, you can choose to forgive, if the other party refuses to admit your mistake, then you can choose to divorce.
What I hear the most is your combing of this matter, so rational and calm that you can't even quite feel how you feel about it. Sometimes a man because of his weak heart, when he is with you, he will turn off the volume of the mobile phone, or set the mobile phone to vibrate, and often delete the call history and ambiguous text messages in the mobile phone, if you look at his mobile phone, even if you don't see anything, he will immediately turn his face with you, and even reprimand you not to touch his mobile phone, because he is afraid that you will find out the secret of his cheating. The process of forgiving a cheating person is not a one-time event, but a series of conscious acts of forgiveness, commitment, and trust.
Over time, the other party will gradually lose patience, and even come up with the idea of going outside to find someone. There are also people who always complain in life that their partner is useless, thinking that the other party is incompetent, not good at housework, in bad shape, and always unreasonable. Some dissatisfaction may be the other party's nitpicking, of course, some dissatisfaction is indeed that the other party has not done it properly. As long as the person in the marriage thinks that you will not change, or you still blame the other person in turn. The other party's patience gradually disappeared, and cheating became the other party's ** way of attack and revenge.