Lies are everywhere in our lives. Sometimes we lie to others, and sometimes others lie to us. Lying seems to have become a social strategy, a means to protect oneself or to an end. However, if you think about it, you will find that lying is actually a gamble that tests the intelligence and emotions of others.
I used to have a friend who always lied. Sometimes it's something inconsequential, like she didn't go to the party, but she did. Sometimes it's more important, like when she tells you that she's secretly dating someone else but is watching TV at home. I didn't realize she was lying at first because I trusted her and respected her privacy. But as time went on, we found some clues, such as her eyes flickering, her speech becoming incoherent, and her behavior a little strange. I began to wonder if what she said was true, but I didn't ask her directly because I was afraid of losing her as a friend.
One day, I stumbled upon her chats with other people and found out that she had been lying to me. I felt betrayed and very angry and disappointed. I found her and wanted to hear her explanation. But she still lied, claiming that the chats were fake and that someone had deliberately framed her. I looked her in the eye and felt as if I was looking at a stranger. I knew she was lying, but I didn't know why she was lying.
Then I calmed down and remembered some of the things she had said to me. She said that since she was a child, her parents have been strict with her and required her to be perfect. She is afraid of disappointing others or being abandoned by others. She felt like she wasn't good enough, good enough, and didn't deserve to be loved enough. Therefore, in order to win the approval and affection of others, she constantly uses lies to cover up her shortcomings and mistakes. She didn't know how to face her true feelings and needs, how to express her true thoughts and opinions.
I suddenly understood her difficulties and my own stupidity. I thought I was putting up with her, but in reality I was spoiling her. I thought I understood her, but in reality I ignored her. I thought I loved her, but I actually hurt her. I decided to forgive her and myself. I told her I already knew the truth, but I didn't want to pursue it anymore. I told her I still think of her as a friend, but I want her to be honest with herself and others. I told her I wouldn't lie to her anymore and hoped she wouldn't lie to me again.
Lying is actually a gamble, betting that the other person's IQ is not high enough to find loopholes, and betting that the other person's emotions are deep enough to be forgiven. But is the person who lies stupid, or is the person who listens more stupid? The stupidest thing in the world is that we've told the truth. Even if you know, you're still lying.
At that moment, she cried. She cried and apologized to me, saying she had never met a friend like me. She cried and said that from now on, she will try to change herself and will continue to cherish their friendship. I held her and it felt like I was holding a wounded child. I know our friendship can go on, but it will take more time and effort.
Lying is actually a gamble, betting that the other party's IQ is not high enough to find loopholes, and betting that the other party has deep feelings and can be forgiven. But is the person who lies stupid, or is the person who listens more stupid? The stupidest thing in the world is that we've told the truth. Even if you know, you're still lying.