vol.25 [3-2-1 Lifelong Growth Strategy].
Backstage, I often have friends who ask me to recommend a psychology book list, and I have always adhered to the view that "no one book list is suitable for everyone".
And most of the time, you might as well read a little less. After entering the life of 30+, I feel more and more that there is no need to spend too much time reading new books, especially in this era of AI "omniscient", the requirements for reading are really very different from before.
important points.
Read 10,000 books and travel 10,000 miles, don't choose one or the otherIn the past, I always felt that if you can't read 10,000 books and travel 10,000 miles, you should choose one. Now it seems that I was young and ignorant, and I had experienced too little. Entering the eye is not the same as entering the heart, whether it is reading or traveling. If the quality of the book is not good, or your understanding is biased, it is easy to get into the horns and play a counterproductive role. Only travel, if you don't have delicate and rich sensibilities, you just change the place to live. Therefore, if you can't have both, it is better to balance your time and energy, not only to study, but also to live, and corroborate each other, so as to achieve the unity of knowledge and action to the greatest extent. For a highly sensitive person like me, the easy problem is to read too much and live too little. Too much thought, unbalanced movement and stillness, easy to get depressed. Sorrow is born of depression, the way to relieve sorrow is to vent, and the way to seek vent is moving. To live, to feel, to stretch; Vice versa. More and miscellaneous is better than less and fineAs for whether it is better to read more or less, Schopenhauer has an interesting analogy, he said:
Even the most well-stocked library is not as useful as a small library with a small but well-organized collection of books if the books are placed in a mess. ”
More and miscellaneous is better than less and fine
The same is true of the current trend of AI. What can really make a big difference is not general AI, but those exclusive intelligence developed for subdivided fields, such as medical care, education, and so on. Only a very small number of people can become generalists at any one time, and it is very difficult to find a second Leonardo da Vinci in history; Comparatively, it is much easier to become a professional. A good book deserves to be smashedUnless you really read too few books, it's worth going through the books on the shelves again.
For those books that you feel good the first time you read them, be sure to read them again every once in a while. This is not only because you will forget most of the content of the book, but also because after a period of time, your life experience has increased, and you will definitely have more and deeper understanding of the same content. This is also the reason why I read a lot of books, read a lot of miscellaneous books, and not necessarily have a lot of gains from reading those dozens of classics repeatedly. Take psychology-related books as an example, a large number of psychological science and psychological self-help books are published every year, but the theoretical framework of these books is basically the same as the works of decades ago, except that the language and situation are replaced by a more familiar and acceptable way for modern people. 
As for what makes a good book, everyone's standards are different, and for me, what can nourish life and soul is a good book. I like abstract concepts, self-exploration and deep thinking, so philosophy books and biographies are a pleasure to read. Some people like to analyze human nature and strategy, and they may love history books. There is no superiority or disadvantage in different categories, find your preference and pick one of the classics. I often talk to people about the importance of being cautious about the information we receive, because although we seem to have a choice of which books to read and which programs to watch, we have no control over the brain activity after receiving the information. Good books nourish the mind, but bad books can really damage the mind. thoughts.
Reading is the process of contemplating oneself
In the final analysis, reading is to read yourself, not others.
Many people often reverse this logic when they read some psychological self-help bestsellers.
Reading is a process of correcting oneself, not measuring the activities of others with a ruler.
Focus on yourself, whether it's loving yourself or pushing yourself.
Most decisions are like hats
Many decisions in life are like choosing which hat to wear when you go out, if you choose one that doesn't match, it's good to change it.
The cost of "making a mistake" is low, and the only thing that needs to be done is to replace it as soon as possible and try a few more combinations.
1 golden sentence
You can't create experiences. You have to go through it. --Albert Camus