As the saying goes: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is hurtful and cold in June." ”
When people get along with each other, not all problems can be solved in one sentence.
Sometimes, no matter how reasonable you are, the other party will not be able to understand it, and even misunderstanding will arise because of your words.
As the Book of Changes says: "The mouth can spit out roses, and it can also spit out tribulus terrestris." ”
Therefore, in the process of getting along with others, we must pay attention to the way we speak.
Sometimes, it is better to be silent than not to say too much, because talking too much will not only not solve the problem, but will also bring trouble to yourself.
The ancients used to say, "It is better to be silent than to talk much."
Because "sickness enters through the mouth, and evil comes out of the mouth."
Hurtful words. In life, many people often hurt others because of their own impulses. However, these behaviors are not understandable and can even be misunderstood.
There is a sentence in the Analects: "Clever words make the color, and the words are fresh." This means that a person who speaks a lot of rhetoric rarely has the quality of benevolence. often put on a pleasant appearance, and few people can really be benevolent.
It can be seen that those who like to speak ill of others behind their backs are often unable to gain the favor of others in the end. Because if a person likes to speak ill of others, then he will gradually be hated.
As "Zengguang Xianwen" said: "A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people and is cold in June." Therefore, in the process of getting along with others, we must learn to empathize and use kind words to warm the hearts of others.
Words that reveal people's privacy.
The most taboo between people is to expose people's privacy. Because in the process of interpersonal interactions, once there is a gap between each other, then the distance between each other will become farther and farther away. If we always like to reveal people's privacy, then we can only ask for our own hardships in the end.
So, don't reveal someone's privacy, even if you think you're very capable.
To be a man, we must know how to empathize and consider problems from the perspective of others. Only in this way can we gain the trust of others and win the respect of others.
As the saying goes: "When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives." "Therefore, don't be too harsh.
Show off words. Virtue is not lonely, there must be neighbors. —Zhou Yi
A person's virtue can only be discovered after spending a long time with others. Therefore, if you are not virtuous, no one will want to get along with you, even if you mix well now. As the ancients said, "A man cannot stand without virtue." ”
A person's virtue is very important, and only when he has enough virtue can he get more happiness in life. However, if a person does not have virtue, no matter how much wealth he has, he will put himself in trouble.
Therefore, you must be a low-key person and do things in a high-profile manner, and don't always like to show off your life. This will only make others look down on you and hate you.
Show off your words.
As the saying goes, "A gun shoots a bird." ”
If a person is too high-profile, he will not only attract the envy of others, but also lead to isolation.
Because everyone has their own ideas, and if you are too high-profile, others will think that you are not self-aware. So, at this time, the more you show off yourself, the more you will turn others off.
Be a low-key person, if a person is too high-profile, it will make others think he is annoying. Such a person will not only fail to make good friends, but will also offend many people in their daily lives.
Therefore, we should keep a low profile at all times. Even if our life is good, don't show off your life in the circle of friends. After all, not only will you make others jealous and hate you, but it will also cause trouble for yourself.