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A native of Hangzhou, with a height of 1.8 meters, an annual salary of 100,000 yuan, and two suites at home", everyone may think that such conditions must be a sweet spot in the blind date market.
But the 35-year-old Mr. Wang has been disliked by the other party many times.
Especially a recent blind date experience, which made him feel speechless.
The height of the girl is 1.68 meters, and she is from other provinces, and her income is also about 100,000 yuan per year.
After meeting, the two chatted very speculatively, and Mr. Wang had a good impression of the girl, thinking that there was hope for this marriage.
On the night after the separation, when the two were chatting on their mobile phones, the girl sent a document of "family daily expenses", with an expenditure of 9,900 yuan a month, which made Mr. Wang dumbfounded.
In this bill, the basic living expenses such as grocery shopping, water and electricity bills, ** fees, and clothes are listed in detail, as well as the cost of red and white ceremonies, which is roughly calculated and about 9,900 yuan per month.
In addition, the girl also explained that the expenditure of 9,900 yuan was not comprehensive, both of them were only children, and after marriage, the expenses of both parents' illness and raising children were not included.
Mr. Wang feels that the girl is too realistic, her annual income is 100,000 yuan, and she has two houses to rent, so there is no problem in her future life.
But the girl thinks that in Hangzhou, the annual income of 200,000 yuan is too little, and her colleagues who are married and have children around her found that the expenses after marriage are quite scary after communicating with them, so she encourages Mr. Wang to take the annual salary of 200,000 yuan as the goal.
Talking about this, Mr. Wang felt that he had the motivation to fight for his family, but this kind of life was too tiring, and in the end, the two ended amicably.
After watching this blind date experience, most people feel that the girl is too much.
Some people think that with an expenditure of 9,900 yuan a month, this kind of person is a living gold-swallowing beast, and he can't afford to raise it when he marries home.
There are also people who think that girls are too selfish, everyone goes to work to make money, why let men support family expenses alone?
However, there are also some people who understand that living in a first-tier city is not too demanding for girls.
Coordinates Hefei, Anhui Province, at the end of the year, the average monthly cost of 10,000, a little reluctantly, for Hangzhou, this cost is really not much.
There are also some married men who show up to speak, they didn't feel it before they got married, and after they got married, they found that they spent a lot of money casually every month, spending 180,000 yuan a year.
Of course, there are also some people who have an annual income of less than 100,000 yuan, and they have a good life.
The outlook on consumption and values are different, the quality of life you want to pursue is different, and the expenses of each family must be varied.
But if you consider living in Hangzhou, an annual income of 100,000 yuan is really not much.
Many people are disgusted with this girl, most likely because they think that she is sitting back and enjoying it, letting the man bear all the family expenses.
In fact, it may not be what everyone thinks, the girl just lists some basic living expenses, and does not say that all the men should bear them.
If a woman wants to give birth to a child, if there is no help from the elderly, she has to bring it herself, the job is gone, the annual income of 100,000 yuan is naturally gone, and the responsibility of supporting the family can only fall on the man.
At present, the combined salary of the two is more than 200,000 yuan a year, and there are two apartments for rent, and life should be good.
But what about the future? People who have no long-term concerns must have near-term worries, only see the comfort in front of them, and if something suddenly happens, it will catch people off guard.
Perhaps, girls are not worshipping money, but just thinking about the long term.
If you don't know that firewood and rice are expensive, the cost of the baby after birth may exceed the imagination of many men.
I saw a bill of "pregnancy + baby + baby" on the Internet, and I was shocked when I saw it.
It cost a total of 50,800 yuan, excluding the 16,000 yuan cost of the 40-day confinement sister-in-law, every expenditure in this bill is quite normal.
Moreover, this is only the cost of the baby before the age of one, not including the expenses of attending interest classes, reading, eating, drinking and playing in the future.
Isn't it not that I don't know, but I'm shocked?
In fact, there are still many hidden expenses in married life, if you calculate it carefully, it is really scary, if there is no solid economic foundation, the story of poor couples mourning will be staged every day.
For example, after having a child, you can save any other expenses, but if your wife doesn't have enough milk, the child's monthly milk powder money must not be less.
According to the conventional milk powder**, a barrel of milk powder of about 150 yuan, about 800 grams, according to the amount that can be drunk for 7 days, about 5 barrels a month, the total price is 750 yuan. (And that's not even the most expensive milk powder).
The article was written, not to advocate that everyone should be a money worshipper, nor a PUA boy.
Getting married and having children to support the family is the common responsibility of both husband and wife, and those who have money to contribute money and powerful efforts will definitely be able to live a prosperous life as long as the starting point is for the good of the family.
Although this girl's idea is very realistic, it is also a long-term consideration to be responsible for marriage, and there is no need to block others from scolding all the time.
Mr. Wang may belong to the character of being at ease with what he encounters, and he doesn't have much ambition, thinking that he can just live a small life.
Both of them, judging from their respective values and needs, are not wrong.
On the contrary, I admire their candour.
Before marriage, it may be a little embarrassing to face some real problems, and even attract ridicule from many people, but it is also a way to see each other clearly in advance.
One prepares for a rainy day, the other is at peace with the situation, if they don't pierce this layer of window paper, become a family, and just start getting along, maybe there will be no problem.
But with the emergence of all kinds of trivial things, due to their different values and outlook on life, sooner or later various contradictions will erupt.
It's not necessarily a bad thing to let each other see the reality earlier.