I have written a lot of emotional articles, which can probably be divided into two categories, one is to give solutions, and the other is to teach everyone to prevent problems.
To be honest, many incurable diseases were not much of a problem in the first place
It's just that I didn't pay attention to it at first, so the hole is getting bigger and bigger.
It wasn't until later that I wanted to redeem it, but it was difficult to do it.
Among them, there is one situation that is the most tangled, and that is extramarital affairs.
Both men and women can hardly be perfect when faced with a spouse's cheating.
In other words, there is no perfect solution to this matter at all, and neither advance nor retreat.
Some people are more short-tempered, have no room for sand in their eyes, and when they know that their spouse is having an extramarital affair, they may just flip the table.
Some people are soft-hearted, although they are very uncomfortable, but after being coaxed by the other party for a few words, they choose to forgive.
Truth be told, you can't say it's wrong to do so, but,When faced with such a tricky issue as extramarital affairs, it is necessary to be more rigorous.
When encountering an extramarital affair, you should not fall out casually, nor should you forgive easily, but take these three steps.
1.Ask yourself, do you still want to continue?
There is no standard answer to this question, and everyone's situation is different, because there are so many things involved in marriage.
There are reasons for divorce, and there are reasons to continue, and all kinds of factors must be taken into account.
If you are really entangled, you can do the elimination method first, or use the deduction system.
If you really can't forgive this betrayal, then decisively choose to divorce.
Remember, if you end up choosing to forgive, make sure that forgiveness is genuinely letting go, not compromised.
Forgiveness is to let go of the resentment in your heart and get the marriage back on track, rather than blindly tolerating it.
Only by figuring out your own heart can you know what to do next.
2.Communicate well, no matter what.
Once you've figured out what you're thinking, the next step is to make a decision.
Remember, whether you end up choosing divorce or forgiveness, you must communicate well with the other person.
If you choose to separate, try to get together and disperse as much as possible.
Although the relationship between two people has broken down, although the other party hurt you first, there is no need for you to make a big fuss.
Revenge, there may be a short-term pleasure, but it can also make you more painful.
If you choose to forgive, then it is even more necessary to have a good chat with the other party.
Be clear about his thoughts, make sure he is genuinely repentant and promise not to make mistakes again.
At the same time, let the other person know your bottom line and let him take action to prove his sincerity.
3.It's okay to be in pain, but don't get bogged down.
Regardless of the end result, remember not to allow yourself to suffer for too long.
Some people become depressed and sensitive after being betrayed, and in this case, whether they choose to divorce or continue, they will not have a good time in the future.
To be honest, after being betrayed, it will definitely be very hurt and painful.
However, setbacks are only temporary, life is still long, and there is no need to live in the shadows all the time.
Some truths, although brutal, must also be learned to face.
At this time, raise the pattern a little higher, then the state of the whole person will be much better.
In addition, don't doubt your marriage because of a failureYou know, there are two sides to everything, and you can't just focus on the unfortunate side.
Actually,Some problems are truly unsolvable
All we can do is try to minimize the damage.
As for the rest, it can only be determined by providence.
Finally, I want to say that,Encountering extramarital affairs, in addition to divorce and forgiveness,
In fact, there are other options, just choose the one that suits you......
Extramarital affairs