This time, my sister is getting married, and the happy event is coming, so I have to prepare a finale gift. But here's the problem, my father-in-law and I don't have a half-star difference in our views on the ceremony.
I firmly believe that the gift is sufficient, and there can be no ambiguity. As for the old man, he said that if he can give less, he will give less, and it would be good to save some money.
A few days ago, I was chatting with my brother-in-law about the ceremony, and my mother-in-law suddenly interjected and said, "Son, don't give too much gift money, save a little, who looks down on us?" I was so angry that I turned my head and stood up with her: "Give less, can people afford us?" Don't give face at all, what kind of favor to talk to someone! As soon as the words fell, I heard my mother-in-law "crackling" and began to nag.
But I'm just not convinced, we have to have enough courtesy, otherwise people will look down on us when we go out. My brother-in-law also agreed with me, saying that this had to be done according to the rules, and there should be no small actions.
On the day of the gift, my father-in-law and I were either sitting together or competing with the number of gifts. I thought to myself, this is my sister's great joy, I must give it enough, and I can't let her lose face. But as for the mother-in-law, it's a little calculating, and I think it's okay to give less.
The mother-in-law walked over with a serious face: "Son, how much gift money is too much, right?" Wouldn't it be nice to save a little? "I was immediately furious, but I knew that it was useless to sing against her, we had to rely on ourselves.
I decided, and I had to do what I thought. My sister has to give enough, and she can't let her think we're stingy. I looked at the number of gift money, and secretly made up my mind that I had to give more than I wanted, and I couldn't be polite.
In the end, I handed over the gift money to my sister, and looking at the gratitude in her eyes, my heart instantly felt a lot more relaxed.
Later, my mother-in-law was a little angry, but she didn't make any big moves, after all, she was too embarrassed to make too much trouble about the big event. I still feel a little guilty in my heart, after all, my mother-in-law also has her own reasons. But I think that people are sophisticated, they have to know some rules, and they can't always be careful.
This time made me understand that the gift is not only a ritual, but also an expression of emotion. You must know how to respect the wishes of others, but also stick to your own principles. When interacting with others, you have to learn to respect each other in order to go further.
Before I could recover my senses, my brother-in-law came and grabbed me and said, "Brother, I have something to discuss with you." "I was a little uneasy, and it wasn't a good thing for him to come to me. But I still followed him to the side, and my brother-in-law stared at me and said, "Look, this, in fact, some relatives of our family, they don't give gift money." "I was a little blindsided in my heart, how could it be? It's a shame, isn't it?
I quickly asked, "What's the matter?" Aren't they going to a wedding too? The brother-in-law looked embarrassed and said, "Yes, but my daughter-in-law told me that they may not have given the gift money because of the family's poor financial situation." "I was a little panicked when I heard it, did I give too much? What's going on?
I hurriedly asked, "What should I do then?" Do we have to go and return the gift money too? The brother-in-law hesitated for a moment and said, "No, we can't just give us back because they didn't give it." However, we can't give it away. ”
This can make my head bigger, and the gift is already a headache, and now there is such a mess, which is really enough.
I muttered to myself, "What's the matter?" The brother-in-law shook his head and said, "Let's go and see the situation first." ”
So, we went to the relatives together to see what was going on. I went, and I saw a relative I had never met, and my brother-in-law introduced him as a distant cousin of their family, and I said hello to him and had a casual chat.
After a while, I made a joke with him and said, "Oh, buddy, aren't you making a fortune?" I didn't give any gift money, so I saved a lot of money! Unexpectedly, when he heard my words, his face was a little unsightly, and he said: "Brother, don't you know, our family has been a little difficult recently, and my job is also unstable, besides, it is also a great joy for my brother-in-law, and it is not easy for me to come." ”
When I heard this, I was a little embarrassed and a little regretful. I thought people just didn't want to give it, but I didn't expect it to be a little difficult. But now that the situation is embarrassing, I give so much, doesn't it seem that I am an ignorant person?
I quickly explained, "Oh, that's the case, then you don't have to worry too much, you can accept this gift money." He looked at me, smiled, and said, "Okay, then you're welcome, thank you." ”
I was also relieved that this embarrassing problem had finally been solved. I told my brother-in-law, and he was also relieved, and said with a smile: "It seems that this matter is settled, go back quickly, and give this gift money to my brother-in-law and his wife." ”
I nodded, and my heart was also full of joy, after all, this is my sister's great joy, we can't delay it.
When I returned to the wedding scene, I took the gift money and said to my brother-in-law and his wife: "This gift money is given to you by the two of us, I wish you a hundred years of good harmony and an early birth to a precious son!" "My brother-in-law and his wife received the gift money, their faces were full of gratitude, and I was also full of emotion.
Afterwards, I sat with my brother-in-law, and I said, "Brother, this time we really helped my sister out." The brother-in-law smiled and said, "Yes, I didn't expect this little matter to really take the two of us." ”
I smiled and nodded, and I was secretly glad that although the gift problem was tossed this time, it was finally solved satisfactorily. I think life is like this, there are always some small tribulations, but as long as you can face them bravely, you will always find a solution.