In life, some girls often become the target of bullying by others because of their natural gentleness and kindness. They don't understand why they are forced to accept some unreasonable demands when they are unwilling. Why does he seem to be gentle, but he has become a soft persimmon in the eyes of others?
The answer is simple: those bullies see their tenderness and take it as a form of weakness. If you are too gentle, you will be turned into a weakness. Girls can be gentle and elegant, but they must also be soft and strong, and elegant and thorny! If you are a girl or you have a girl in your family, you need to consciously develop this character. How do you develop this kind of character? Eavesdropping one by one.
First, we must be firm in principle. Usually be clear about your bottom line and stick to your principles. While being gentle, you must have your own firm stance. In this way, others will understand that your gentleness does not mean that you can be bullied at will. You need to tell the people around you that your bottom line is at the right time. When someone tries to provoke you or violate your borders, you need to be resolute in expressing your grievances and zero tolerance. Don't be afraid of conflict, the more you are afraid of conflict, the more others will have to do it. Of course, if the disparity in power is too great, a wise "throw in the towel" is the best option.
Second, it is necessary to express high emotional intelligence. Speaking is an art, and a gentle tone paired with a clear attitude can make people more receptive to your point of view. When we refuse, we can be tactful, which will give the other party a good step. For example, when confronted with something you don't like, you can say, "I understand your thoughts, but I think ......."This expression is both gentle and firm. Of course, if you encounter disgusting people and disgusting things, you don't need to be so polite, you must refuse sternly and decisively.
Third, we must be self-reliant and independent. Independent girls are more attractive. Whether it is financial independence or ideological independence, it can make girls more confident, so as to better show a gentle and resolute attitude. Usually not mentally attached to anyone (including your parents, partner, children). Only when you have an independent mind and use your thoughts to influence others can you gain the respect of others. Work hard and be financially independent. No matter how much people around you can give you, when you grow up, you must have the ability to make your own money.
Fourth, we must learn to love ourselves. Only by truly loving yourself can you better display these two qualities. So, don't forget to take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. There are many girls around me who love their parents, brothers and sisters, husbands, and children, but they forget to love themselves. Blindly sacrifice yourself to love others, and slowly the people around you will be content with your "care", and slowly ignore your hard work. Your attitude towards yourself determines the attitude of others towards you. How can someone who doesn't know how to love yourself will love you?
Fifth, it is necessary to selectively brighten the thorns. Not everything is worth arguing and fighting about. Learn to choose those things that really matter to hold onto, and remain gentle and tolerant when it comes to things that don't matter. Doing so will not only show you that you are not to be messed with, but also show your atmosphere and pattern. In daily life, girls can have tempers, but they should only be sent when they should be stabbed, refused when they should refuse, and stabbed when they should stab! But not vexatious and sloppy.
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