Interpersonal interaction is an inevitable part of our daily lives. How to get along well with others and establish good interpersonal relationships is a difficult problem that we often need to think about and face. To find a good way to get along, we need to be good at observing others, listening carefully and paying attention to their opinions and feelings, and we also need to have a clear set of social standards. Here are 20 tips to help you connect and get along with others.
1. Pay attention to the other person's facial expressions and eyes, they can convey a wealth of emotions and information.
2. Observe body language, including posture, gestures, and body movements, which can reveal the other person's true feelings and attitudes.
3. Pay attention to changes in sound, including changes in pitch, volume, and rhythm, which can reflect emotions and emphasis.
4. Master basic emotional expressions, such as happiness, anxiety, tension, etc., in order to better understand the emotional state of the other party.
5. Pay attention to the key words and phrasing in the speech, which may hint at the attitude and intention of the other person.
6. Pay attention to the other person's stuttering, pause, or changes in speaking speed, these subtle changes may reveal the other person's uneasiness or desire to speak.
7. Listen more and give the other person enough space and time to express their thoughts and feelings.
8. By observing the changes in the surrounding environment, understand the background and situation of the other party, which helps to better understand the words and deeds of the other party.
9. Don't judge lightly, give the other party enough tolerance and understanding.
10. Pay attention to the smile and the authenticity of the smile, sometimes they may be just superficial social politeness rather than the real feeling inside.
11. Pay attention to the consistency of reactions and responses, and observe whether the other party is consistent with words and deeds, or whether there are contradictions and inconsistencies.
12. Learn to ask questions and listen to the other person's answers, which helps to gain insight into the other person's thoughts and feelings.
13. Don't just look at the surface, pay attention to the details, sometimes the information hidden in the details can reveal the true intentions of the other party.
14. Give each other the importance of emotions, respect and understand each other's emotions and feelings.
15. Observe whether the other person's eyes blink frequently and be aware of potential tension.
16. Don't over-interpret or speculate on the emotions and intentions of others, and try to observe and judge with an objective attitude.
17. Pay attention to whether others frequently touch their hair or neck, and figure out the other person's nervousness or uneasiness.
18. Observe the direction of the other person's body and guess whether they are interested.
19. Pay attention to the lip movements of others and speculate whether the other person is nervous or worried.
20. Use intuition and experience, but also realize that everyone is unique and don't make simple judgments about others lightly.