Do you want to have a second child? Listen, it won't take 20 years for the gap to be clear. There are examples of this around me, let you listen to them, and maybe you will have them.
When it comes to raising a baby, many people will say, isn't our generation an only child? But don't forget, times have changed, policies have been liberalized, and the second child has become the new normal. But do you know that the difference behind this is far from being explained by a simple "1+1=2".
Take one of my college classmates as an example, a human-like family of four. Originally, they thought that a child was very good, but later they felt that there were many people, so they had two treasures. But now, the appearance of the two babies has made their lives more stressful. My classmates often complain in the circle of friends that the education cost of the two children is simply a bottomless pit, especially when they choose a private school. You say, one child can barely cope, two children, that's a double portion. Not to mention the hard work of bringing a baby, it was originally a one-to-one service, but now it has to become two to one, tired and happy.
Moreover, you don't look at it as just one more child, the growth environment is completely different. My house is an example of this. The eldest of my family has been the little emperor of the family since he was a child, and everything is the best. As a result, the little guy often complained to me about loneliness and wanted a companion. I looked at his eyes, and I felt guilty in my heart. However, there are two sides to this story. My cousin's family is a two-child family, and the two children have learned to share and help each other since they were young. She told me that this has helped the children develop social skills and team spirit in a way that my eldest family has not experienced.
Don't mention anything else, let's talk about pension. My grandmother's family is a typical multi-child family, and her old age can be nourished. There are many children and take turns to take care of them, which not only shares the economic pressure, but also makes the elderly feel the warmth of home. On the other hand, in some single-child families, the problem of old-age care is particularly prominent. A child has to take on all the responsibilities, which is not only a heavy burden and stress, but also difficult to fully take care of the emotional needs of the elderly.
Having said that, whether to have a second child or not really depends on personal circumstances. Some families may feel that one child is already in a hurry, and another one? Isn't that messing around? But there are also families who like to be lively, feel that multiple children have more fun, and are willing to pay more for it. I think it's a personal choice, and there's no right or wrong way to do it.
At the end of the day, life is a marathon, and everyone's starting line is different. The important thing is to find a rhythm that works for you and not blindly follow the trend. What's the situation in your home? Have you considered having a second child? If you don't think about it, what is the reason? Welcome to leave a message to share, let's talk together.