Do you know why I want to talk to my children? Do you know how to talk to your child well?
Many experts in children's education have done such surveys, and the family environment of children who love to talk and express is completely different from that of children who do not like to talk and cannot express. Children whose parents talk well love to talk and can express; Children who do not like to speak and cannot express themselves are either taciturn or harsh. This shows that the way parents speak and the communication mode of the family have a great impact on children.
Many parents will say that I also want to talk to my children well, but it is really difficult to do, and the atmosphere is always wrong as soon as I open my mouth, and my children will no longer answer if they can't say three words. Or the family can't speak a few words all day, and the child rarely takes the initiative to speak.
So please take a look at which of the following modes of communication is in your home?
In general, there are four modes of family communication:
The first is that family members talk about everything, good and bad, and everyone expresses their thoughts to their heart's content. This is called friendly and fluent communication.
The second is that everyone only talks about good things, speaks respectfully and respectfully, can't vent negative emotions, and is not allowed to say bad things, even if they talk about other people's bad things. This is called the positive rational type.
The third is to only talk about bad things, and each other sees that the other party is not doing well or doing the wrong thing, and as soon as they open their mouths, they criticize, complain, complain and blame. This is called negative catharsis.
The fourth is that the good and the bad are not said, the family is silent, just doing their own things, and basically there is no communication. This is called the Blockade Silent Type.
I believe you will know that the first friendly and fluent communication mode is the best and healthiest, the second seems to be good, but it actually suppresses people's emotions, and the last two make people feel uncomfortable when they hear it.
In real life, the communication mode of a family is not absolute, but a combination of the above four, but on a certain day or at a certain time, a certain performance is more prominent.
If you want your child to be talkative and expressive, you must first learn to talk to your child well and adjust the communication mode in your home to be friendly and fluent.
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