In the Chinese New Year's Eve, I want to go to my sister-in-law's house for the New Year, and my sister-in-law will not need it, and there will be no reunions between brothers in the future
One day before the Chinese New Year's Eve, my husband and I had already prepared the New Year's gift and planned to go to my sister-in-law's family gathering the next day. However, the sister-in-law suddenly released a message in the family group, announcing that we are no longer needed to come, and such reunion activities will no longer be held in the future! "Lili told me.
The husband is the youngest son in the family, and he has two older brothers. The eldest brother and sister-in-law are both people in the retirement system, enjoy a higher pension, and have their own confidence in their words. In the family, they are highly regarded and have a high prestige.
The second brother worked as an electrician in a large municipal enterprise, and although his pension was not the highest, he was flexible and skilled. Whether it's a broken light at home or a problem with the water tap, it can be repaired with his skillful hands. The second sister-in-law set up a stall in the vegetable market and engaged in a small business, although it was hard, but the income was quite good.
Comparatively speaking, the situation of our husband and wife is relatively poor. My husband works in a private company, the salary is not high, and the working hours are relatively long, and the in-laws often say that he is "from morning to night", and his income is meager. I work as a front desk worker in a teaching and auxiliary institution, and my income is not very good, and I still need to work hard to attract customers, so I am one of the three brothers who have a relatively poor life.
A few years ago, my in-laws were still in good health, and every Chinese New Year, we would go to my in-laws' house for reunion. My mother-in-law will carefully prepare the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner, and the three of us will bring the New Year's gift, and the whole family is happy and full of warmth.
However, every time we had dinner together, my in-laws were always reluctant to nag something about it. The implicit meaning of the words is basically to criticize my husband and I for our lack of success, and to remind us to nurture our sons well and not let the next generation repeat the mistakes of the past. To be honest, I didn't really like to hear about it and didn't want to go to such parties, but my husband always insisted on pulling us along.
As for the two sisters-in-law, the sister-in-law always seemed arrogant, with contempt in her eyes, and clearly showed her disdain for us. In contrast, although the second sister-in-law is less educated, she always likes to show off, showing off her expensive jewelry, extravagant clothes and newly purchased designer bags in a swaggering way, as if putting on a dazzling performance on stage, and this attitude of showing off her wealth always tires me.
In the past two years, our family has lost in-laws one after another, so the annual gathering is held alternately among family members. The first meeting was at my sister-in-law's house.
There are many kinds of dishes prepared by the sister-in-law, and each dish is placed in delicate small plates and small plates, which can be seen to the end as soon as you pick up the chopsticks. The second sister-in-law bluntly said that this is the New Year, why is the amount of food so small, and it is not enough to eat like this. After hearing this, the sister-in-law rolled her eyes disdainfully, and said arrogantly that these are all famous dishes that can only be found in five-star hotels, not for satiety, but for taste. Only those countrymen have a big pot of dinner, it's too vulgar!
I immediately said to my husband that it would be better for me to cook a bowl of beef noodles at home, which was delicious and filling.
The next year, our family went to my second sister-in-law's house for the New Year. The second sister-in-law was really a shrewd businessman, and when the whole family got together, she set up a sumptuous chicken soup hot pot, with all kinds of greens, cabbage, vermicelli and fried tofu on the table, and she kept saying: "Eat more, eat more, I have enough to eat here." The sister-in-law was not satisfied on the spot, she said: "Your table is not as good as a king crab on my table last year." You're so calculating. ”
In the third year, it was my turn to host the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner. I felt that I couldn't lose in the opening remarks, and I didn't want to quit on my own initiative, so I decided to book a table in the hotel, spent 1,200 yuan, and ordered 26 dishes, which was indeed a sumptuous banquet. The second sister-in-law feasted happily, her mouth was oily and shiny, and she looked proud. However, the sister-in-law frowned and said, "How many times a year have you eaten in a restaurant, shouldn't you have a reunion at home for the New Year?" How can you eat at a restaurant? "Well, I didn't get good reviews even after spending money.
This year, it was my turn to go to my sister-in-law's house again. I joked with my boss beforehand that we would eat a full meal at noon and then taste the five-star haute cuisine in the evening. Unexpectedly, the sister-in-law posted such a message in the family group.
I remained silent, wanting to see my second sister-in-law's reaction. After a while, the second sister-in-law nodded and agreed. In that case, I agreed. Actually, I've long been disinterested in this kind of family gathering, and it's really boring for a group of people to be noisy together.
My husband sat silently and drank alone, and his face was not very good-looking. After a while, I heard him sigh and say, "With parents here, siblings are a family; The parents are not there, and the siblings are just relatives. ”
I understand that my husband actually longs to be able to have a drink with his two older brothers. Although he is not very good at finances, he is soft at heart and attaches great importance to family feelings. However, the current situation suggests that in the years to come, we may choose to spend time with our respective families.