The wise man helps others by helping each other and perfecting himself; Fools, people step on people, and they always want others to fall on their heels. In fact, when we interact with people, everyone has times when they encounter difficulties, and everyone has times when the road is difficult to walk. often help people, and someone helps in trouble; Give way more, the road is better. But it's not all helpful, especially between people of the opposite sex, and some things should not be too soft-hearted. In particular, if a woman borrows these two things from you, no matter how good the relationship is, she must know how to refuse. 
01. Knowing that you have a wife, I borrow time from youKnowing that you have a family and a room, and I want you to accompany you, can such a woman come and go? The answer is: no!
It doesn't matter, what she wants from you, whether you can help her, or if she has some calculations for you, even if she really has feelings, she can't accept it. There is a good saying: In this life, if you can manage your own affairs well, you are a very powerful person. What do you call yourself a mess? Our family, our lovers, our jobs, our children, we can't do everything, how can we give time to others? Especially one, the opposite sex who has a plan for you, whether it is for wealth or affection, it is not something we should get close to. Stay away from that person who has plans for you, and avoid making mistakes and hurting others and yourself. 
02. Knowing that you are under pressure, I borrow money from youNo one has a hard time, and if we don't encounter something difficult to solve, we rarely borrow money from others. Because borrowing money, borrowing or not is a dilemma!
If the relationship is in place, we don't have any money ourselves, and rejecting each other may really hurt our feelings. If we have money in our hands, but the relationship is average, we don't want to borrow, and sometimes we borrow for the sake of face, and we are reluctant to borrow this money. So, don't ask someone else to borrow money, if you do, give the other person a sense of security, say the date of repayment, or make an IOU. Some people, knowing that you are under pressure and not rich, still want to borrow money from you, and borrowing money is not a must. Then at this time, don't lend it to her easily. If the opposite sex borrows money, we don't discuss it with our family members, which is to bury hidden dangers in our lives. The person who ignores your embarrassment and asks you to borrow money may not actually think much about you. After all, friends who really care about you value you won't know that you're embarrassed to refuse and make things difficult for you! 