When did I start arguing and arguing every day at home, I didn't realize it at first, but by the time I realized it, arguing every day had almost become a habit.
Thinking about the reason for the argument in hindsight, it definitely feels speechless.
For example, I say to my child, "It's so cold today!" Wear more. ”
Your lover may say, "No, it's not cold at all, it's just a false alarm." ”
I'll be inexplicably angry, "Why isn't it cold, wear more clothes to get tired, I have a cold and fever, what should I do?" You don't care about feelings, it's not that I got up in the middle of the night to wipe the child and feed the medicine. ”
Not to be outdone, the lover said: "It's just grinding all day long, I'll take care of it tomorrow, I don't need you." ”
Me: "Okay, now on, you can take care of it right away, why wait for tomorrow." ”
Then, there is the possibility of a war.
Mo Yan said: "A person's greatest stupidity is habitual rebuttal. As long as there is no conflict of interests, there is generally no need to refute what others say. ”
Especially in a family, every day life is faced with trivial things, if you always quarrel over some small things, the family will never have peace.
Most of the quarrels that happened in my house were caused by this habitual refutation, and the person who was refuted was accustomed to rebutting it.
The flames grew louder and louder, and war broke out.
In fact, the initial refutation was not malicious at all, but human nature just doesn't like to refute and criticize!
If the adults in the family communicate in this way, then the children will learn the same.
Until, I found out that when my son and daughter get along, they will also quarrel and not give in to each other because of a certain sentence or action.
Moreover, as they grow older, they are also confrontational and ** in their communication with me and my father.
The atmosphere in the whole family became more and more discordant, and I became alert and began to look for the cause.
The ancients said: "If a family is angry, it will decline; If there is harmony in the family, it will be prosperous. ”
And a family that is not harmonious will become more and more angry over time.
People are often able to respect and forgive inappropriate words and mistakes of outsiders.
But he was too harsh on his family, and even unforgiving, saying and doing as if he was opposing for the sake of opposition.
The interests of the family are the same, there will be no conflict at all, and the reason why it is habitual to refute when speaking is nothing more than the family's love and connivance for themselves.
I hope that my awakening is still too late, starting from myself, and strive to drive my family, so that the family atmosphere is healthy, harmonious and happy!
Life is nothing but three meals for four seasons, and all we want is peace and joy.
Fight for what? What are you arguing about? Waste and consume most of your time and energy on trivial things and hurt the feelings between relatives.
What is more precious than the affection between family members?
It has been said, "A family is not about wealth, but about harmony; Life is not about complexity, it's about simplicity. ”
From now on, I will pursue a harmonious family, a simple life, peace and joy for the rest of my life.
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