List of high-quality authors My uncle's life was dying, and my uncle launched a donation, saying that I would give at least 60,000, and I decided to withdraw from the group.
The years have left too many marks on us, and in the blink of an eye I am 31 years old, living in the city with my husband, daughter and parents.
In this warm family, there should have been an older brother who was 4 years older than me, but unfortunately, 16 years ago, he passed away due to illness, which became an eternal pain and regret in the hearts of our family.
The departure of my brother has become a topic that we dare not touch in the family, which is not a tacit choice for us, but just to stop everyone from falling into the sadness of the past. However, just after New Year's Day, an incident almost broke down in our family.
I rested that day, and after lunch I was lazily lying on the couch playing on my phone. Suddenly, a group message cut through the quiet afternoon, and I looked up to find that someone had picked me up in the family group.
Actually, I didn't want to join the group at first, but my cousin pulled me in without saying hello. Out of politeness, I stayed in the group, but rarely paid attention to group messages. Even when someone gives out red envelopes, I never join in the fun.
This group of relatives always does something that they don't know, and they never chat privately when they encounter something, they have to @ you in the group, so every time someone mentions me, it's basically something inconsequential, I usually just glance at it in a hurry, and then move on with my life.
At that time, I opened the group message and found out that it was my brother-in-law who was hospitalized. According to my cousin, my brother-in-law has been diagnosed with lung cancer.
Even children who have just started school know that terminal illness is not so easy**. Not to mention how much pain has to be experienced, the cost of medical treatment alone is enough to make the whole family miserable.
And the brother-in-law and the aunt-in-law are ordinary salarymen with limited income. My cousin is not wealthy, and it is not easy to barely make ends meet in her small family. How can you afford this huge medical bill?
So, the uncle raised his arms and launched a fundraiser in the group, hoping that everyone would lend a helping hand out of the thought of family affection and help the uncle's family tide over the difficulties. He personally took the lead in donating 6,000 yuan.
Then, whether it was an immediate family member or a distant relative who usually couldn't beat the eight poles, they all responded. However, most of the donations were between 200 and 500, and only a few people donated 1,000 yuan, and I rummaged several times and found that in addition to my uncle, only my aunt donated more and donated 3,000 yuan.
Aite was my uncle, and he asked me how much I was going to donate. After seeing the news, I suddenly sat up straight, thinking of something that was at stake in my life, and it was a relative and uncle, so I decided to donate 2,000 yuan. By the way, my parents are also involved, which is counted as our family's heart.
However, just as I lost the 2000 amount and was about to submit the payment, someone in the group was Aite me again. When I went back to the group chat interface, I immediately changed my mind and decided not to donate.
mentioned my uncle, he sent a long voice and said to me: "Cancan (my nickname), everyone in the group knows that your life is not bad now, and you can earn more than 200,000 yuan a year, right?" The more you earn, the greater the responsibility. Your brother-in-law has to rely on you now, you can't be stingy. Uncle has already donated 6,000, and you have to give 60,000 too. ”
After listening to this, my heart became angry, not because I couldn't afford to give the 60,000 yuan, but because I couldn't accept my uncle's words. He seemed to be threatening me, saying as if if I didn't pay the 60,000 yuan, I would have to bear a huge sin. I think that the amount of money I donate should be voluntary, not based on how much I earn.
At that time, my parents and husband were present, and I told them about it angrily, and I also gave my uncle's voice. When my dad heard this, he was anxious: "Standing and talking doesn't hurt my back, whose money is blown by the wind?" Which onion is he? How much do you assign to others to donate, and do you think you are the emperor? is also expropriating, as if he is talking about something! ”
My dad was angry and banged the table with a clang. My husband was playing a game and didn't notice the situation on our side. Hearing that my dad was angry, he hurried out and asked me what was going on, and I pointed to my mom, who was sitting at the coffee table wiping her tears.
I explained to my husband that my mother's tears were not because I was worried about my brother-in-law, nor because of my father's temper and irritability, but because she suddenly remembered my brother, who died young.
Grandma and grandpa have raised two sons and two daughters, they think that their son is the treasure in their hands, and their daughter is a torn cotton jacket.
My mother and aunt were barely educated, and from an early age they either did housework or followed them to work in the fields, and when they were older, they were sent to work in the bedding, and when they were older, they were married off.
Grandma is not only conservative, but also mean-tongued, always saying that her daughter is someone else's daughter-in-law when she marries, especially when my mother and aunt get married, the left sentence says that the mother's family is no longer related, and the right sentence is difficult not to get involved with the mother's family, and said a lot of words that make people feel heavy.
However, when my two uncles were in need, she often came to my house to fight.
Although my father is short-tempered, he is filial and good-hearted, and in order not to embarrass my mother, he almost agreed to my grandmother's request. He only wanted family harmony, but his fate was not good, and my brother suddenly fell seriously ill and his life was in danger.
There is no cure, but it is not incurable. Watching my brother lose weight day by day, my parents were heartbroken, and they were thinking about how to raise money every day**. I even sold my family's house in the hope of saving my brother's life.
My mother returned to her parents' house, burst into tears, and borrowed money from her two uncles and aunts, hoping that they would help in an emergency. My aunt had just divorced and had no savings in hand, so she could only reluctantly lend 1,000 yuan.
The uncle originally promised to give 1,000 yuan, but before he could pay, he was stopped by his aunt, who was like a miser. She said that the family was already in difficulty and could not solve the problem for us, and threatened on the spot that if her uncle dared to give it, she would dare to divorce.
When I wasn't there, I couldn't be sure if the two of them were acting together or if my aunt was simply unwilling to borrow.
Compared with the uncle's family, the uncle's behavior made us feel more angry. Once went to college with the support of his family, his brother-in-law has now settled in the city and is relatively wealthy among his relatives.
My parents originally thought that my brother-in-law would take into account the old relationship and help my brother. My dad even promised to pay off the money as soon as possible, even if he wanted to be a cow and a horse.
Speaking of which, my husband roughly guessed the next plot and tilted his head and asked me, "They didn't borrow money in the end, right?" ”
I nodded heavily, unable to hide my resentment towards them: "Not only did I not borrow a point, but I also ridiculed that my brother was unlucky and not worth spending so much money to save him, and also said that our family's conditions were poor and we would definitely not be able to afford it." They even told my mom to stop talking in vain. You don't know, my mom got down on her knees and begged them, but they weren't moved. Later, the uncle chased him out and gave him 200 yuan, saying that this was all they could help. ”
After saying that, I also began to have teary eyes, but I didn't expect my husband, who has always been gentle, to be as angry as my father: "It's so shameless!" Obviously they are brothers, they only took 6,000, which is too much, but they want you to donate 50,000, which is simply shameful. Wife, you'd better quit this group quickly, don't mix with these people who don't know what to do, and block it directly! ”
I quickly quit the group, and my mother spoke, with a resolute voice in her voice: "According to what you said before, donate 2,000." Thanking them for the 200 dollars they gave in the first place. Then you quit the group and block everyone, except for your aunt, don't bother with anyone else. If someone else says cool things, no matter who they are, they will all be blacked out, so that they have nothing to do with us from now on. ”
My husband stopped expressing his opinion, and my dad silently lit a cigarette. I complied, but I chose to privately transfer 2,000 to my cousin, with a message: "When my brother was in danger, you only gave 200 yuan." Now I will pay it back tenfold, and we will have nothing to do with it again. My mom said that she broke off relations with her mother's family. ”
Then I withdrew from the family group full of hypocrisy and indifference, and did my mother's instructions to block them one by one. Sure enough, some people were talking behind my back, and there were even elders I didn't know who called ** to accuse me, saying that I was narrow-minded and unkind to my family. I didn't bother to deal with it, so I just blocked them.
It is impossible to truly understand without experiencing the pain of others firsthand. Sixteen years ago they could choose to ignore family affection, so why should I be asked to show tolerance and generosity now? If you don't mention it, you will be angry when you mention it, such relatives are really not worth nostalgia.