College students read at night.
We all say that the encounter between two people often begins with fate, and the continuation of fate often depends on whether there is a common topic. Common topics allow two people to get to know each other and get acquainted with each other, while also making each other more and more dependent on each other.
But with the frequent chatting, we may find that the passion of the all-night conversation gradually fades away, and the lack of common topics becomes the main factor in emotional anxiety.
Will feelings without a common topic last long?
How can there be no talk to talk about, the sunset is different every day".
After two years of falling in love, Xiao Xin still feels very happy, and the emotional anxiety that friends around him often fall into, Xiao Xin has not felt it from beginning to end since he fell in love.
Friends around her came to Xiao Xin to "learn from the experience", asking her what is a good way to make the relationship stable, every time, Xiao Xin will recall the love process with the object, "every day's sunset" has become the most impressive picture in her mind.
From the first day they fell in love, the daily life taken casually became the main content of their chat. In other places, they share the most in the sky every day.
Even if they are in a different place, they look up and see the same sky, and the sky across time zones seems to have a unique charm, so that their hearts and emotions are tightly connected to each other.
For Xiao Xin and his object, being in a different place is not an obstacle, and not having a common topic is not a problem, the important thing is that they miss each other and trust each other.
The seemingly ordinary daily life will also be different, and each other who seems to have no common topic can also seek novelty from the ordinary life. How can people who really care about each other have nothing to talk about?
Looking up, the sunset is different every day!
The moment you lose the desire to share, you are the beginning of the end."
It is said that the most important thing in love is each other's desire to share, and the continuation of the desire to share depends on the efforts of both parties. At the moment when he still maintained a strong desire to share but did not get an enthusiastic response from the other party, Xiaoxiao's enthusiasm was exhausted little by little.
Perhaps it was the overly enthusiastic each other at the beginning, after the novelty faded, Xiaoxiao became extremely uncomfortable, and the huge gap made her not know how to balance.
She tried to make a change, but after receiving no response from the other party, her disappointment increased again and again, and gradually, the two intersecting lines became farther and farther apart, and finally returned to parallelism.
After the breakup, Xiaoxiao will occasionally miss it, but at the moment when she thinks that her desire to share is despised, Xiaoxiao will feel that there is nothing worth missing. When each other loses the desire to share, it is when the love is dissipated and the end is near.
Maybe the other party also thought about making a change so that the desire to share between the two people could be maintained, but after the other party's efforts, they found that their feelings for each other had gradually dissipated with the desire to share. Or, the other party's gradual loss of desire to share is the clearest attitude he gives Xiaoxiao.
No matter what kind of psychology it is, in Xiaoxiao's heart, the moment she loses her desire to share is already the beginning of the end.
When it feels like love fades, true love begins to emerge."
There is a saying that "love withdraws, and true love emerges". Only when the relationship between two people tends to be flat, is it the time when the water flows for a long time and is really on the right track.
Konishi and Ozawa had a stage of strong love and an extremely strong desire to share, but now they are more of a dull process of getting along. There is no suspicion, no worry, no deliberate search for topics, and no superficial care and love, more mutual trust and mutual understanding.
It turns out that they will dress up carefully like other couples, and present their most perfect state to each other on a specific date day; And now, they are more in their spare time, making an appointment to take a walk together and chat.
It turns out that they will share ** with each other on social platforms, and the other party will also reply with a long wording; And now they are more straightforward, expressing their thoughts in the simplest way.
Konishi was once asked by a friend: Which stage of love makes her the happiest? She feels that each stage has a different feeling, and at the same time, there is a different happiness.
For her, every stage of this relationship is joyful. Sometimes, the absence of a common topic does not mean that there is a problem in the relationship, and it may also mean that the familiarity with each other makes it unnecessary for both parties to deliberately look for topics to chat about and create a warm atmosphere.
When the love that is gradually wrapped in the freshness of first acquaintance gradually fades, and life returns to its original appearance, love will surface more obviously. Feelings that don't have a common topic don't necessarily last long.
The longevity of love does not depend on whether there is a common topic, but more on the daily relationship.
Perhaps we all ignore that no topic is the beginning of the sublimation of love, or perhaps, without a common topic, it is when love dissipates.
end-author |Liu Ziyu.
Edit |Yang Qinyu.
Audit |Wang Longlong.
Review |Wang Cen Yu.
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