Hayao Miyazaki said, "When a person is wounded, a thorn grows in his heart." ”
And in this world, the greatest harm to a person is the word "cold".
Enthusiasm is the most afraid of falling into the air, and sincerity is most afraid of being disappointed.
Relationship failure can make an otherwise cheerful person become timid and suspicious.
Even if I met the warm embrace again, my first reaction was still palpitations.
After all, if a heart is riddled with holes, the people who live in it will also be wet by the rain.
In the movie "Wu Wen Xidong", there is such a couple.
When she was young, Liu Shufen worked day and night in order to provide for Xu Bo to go to school.
In order to be grateful to the other party, Xu Bochang made a promise and made a lifelong commitment.
But the difference in knowledge and experience makes the gap between the two wider.
Xu Bochang found that although he was a little grateful to Liu Shufen, he had no topic and no love.
Because he was forced to get married, "cold" became his most helpless resistance.
He never touched the things that Shufen had used, and he didn't want to lie down on the bed that Shufen had slept on.
Eating in a room, he never took the initiative to speak, and when he happened to meet him on the street, he chose to turn a blind eye.
At the beginning, Liu Shufen was still like a shrew, chasing him all over the yard to beat him, chasing him and scolding.
But Xu Bochang was getting colder and colder, and he didn't even bother to quarrel with her.
Shufen, who had suffered all the grievances and loneliness, finally chose to commit suicide by jumping into a well in desperation.
At the beginning of love, there always seems to be endless topics to talk about between couples.
You have happy things and always want to share them with him as soon as possible, and he always wants to confide in you as soon as he has the worries of life.
You look forward to his smiling face, and he enjoys your warmth.
But I don't know when it started, but this feeling seems to have changed.
Your inquiry, no response, your care, no object.
It seems that everything has become a one-man show that he is singing.
You have made a lot of excuses for him, tired, tired, tired, ......
But after a long time, I found that the so-called indifference is nothing but the end of love.
Rollo May, the father of existential psychology in the United States, once sighed:"Hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is. ”
Because I don't love it, I don't take the initiative to care, and because I don't love it, I don't want to take the initiative to communicate.
In a marriage, the indifference of the lover is also the most lethal.
Because, the grievance and helplessness it transforms into is a thorn in the bottom of my heart.
Always in an inadvertent moment, attack your lover and torture yourself.
I've seen such a short **.
One day, when a woman was taking the elevator, her hand was accidentally caught in the elevator door, and the vegetables and fruits in her hand fell to the ground.
She picked it up in a hurry, wanting to go home and cook a meal for his beloved.
Passers-by also squatted down to help, and finally finished cleaning up the chicken feathers scattered all over the place.
It's just that when the woman looked up, she saw the man she was thinking about, hiding in the corner and playing with his mobile phone.
At this time, with tears in her eyes, she dropped a sentence, let's break up, and got out of the elevator.
The man chased after her and asked her why she broke up because of a trivial matter?
The woman asked rhetorically, so what's the big deal?
The woman recalled that during the time of their relationship, she always seemed to let her enthusiasm go to the air, and she always fed the dog with a sincere heart.
The woman knows that men like figurines, so they save up for a long time and go to buy them for him, wanting to surprise him on his birthday.
Unexpectedly, the man said with a black face, why are you spending money indiscriminately, I don't like this for a long time.
Women attend important events and want men to help them choose clothes.
But the man said, you can choose for yourself, I still have to play games with my buddies.
When a woman goes to get a manicure, she accidentally breaks her finger while doing a manicure, and comes back to confide in the man about her grievances.
Unexpectedly, my boyfriend, who is addicted to mobile phones, said that it looks good.
It turned out that in the process of getting along with them, there had been countless indifference and perfunctory for a long time.
In the movie "Gone with the Wind", there is such a line:
I love you, but you always whip me with the whip of love, and love will also be worn out. ”
It is true that there is a limit to anyone's love.
If there is no response, no matter how enthusiastic people are, they will be tired; Hurt all the time, no matter how strong the heart is, it will be broken.
Love is afraid of silence, and even more afraid of indifference.
Don't believe that love is speechless in the depths.
In the relationship, the most fearful thing is that a person is willing to express and a person is stingy to listen.
One person is 100 degrees high, and one person is 0 degrees cold.
A person is planning for the future with great anticipation, and a person is full of coldness in his words;
A person complains with tears in his eyes, and a person's eyebrows are full of disgust.
Where there is no response, there is a desperate situation.
When a person is repeatedly frostbitten by indifference, not only the heart will become cold, but also the feelings will freeze.
Even if it can be thawed, it will no longer be able to return to its original state.
Human beings are homeothermic animals, and not only the body needs to keep warm, but also the heart.
Life is short, and what is more terrible than dying alone is dying with someone who makes you feel lonely.
So, instead of pleasing indifference, embrace warmth.
With people who can make you laugh, you can better taste life and perceive the elegance.
Although Liang Yusheng, a martial arts ** family, became famous at a young age, he was very bumpy on the emotional road.
At the age of 32, he was already the deputy chief writer of Hong Kong's "Ta Kung Pao" and a writer for many newspapers, but he was still alone.
Under peer pressure, he had to start his own blind date.
Lin Cuiru is one of his blind dates.
At the beginning of the meeting, Liang Yusheng was slightly disappointed with Lin Cuiru's appearance, she was thin and dark, which really did not fit the image of a chivalrous woman in his heart.
But as soon as the other party spoke, let Liang Yusheng feel like a spring breeze.
On the day of the meeting, Liang Yusheng had a rhinitis attack, and his snot was puffed up one after another, and he couldn't blow it out.
Lin Cuiru not only did not dislike it, but politely handed him a handkerchief and asked him to wipe it.
Liang Yusheng admitted frankly that his nasal polyps are very serious and he needs to have surgery every few years.
Lin Cuiru comforted intimately that no one can guarantee that she will never get sick.
There are back and forth conversations, so that the two have a good impression of each other.
Within a year, they got married.
But in the first few years of marriage, Liang Yusheng's manuscript fee was very unstable.
He was apologetic and often said to his wife, "I don't earn much, not enough to buy you the clothes you like." ”
But Lin Cuiru said: "You are my best clothes." ”
With such people who understand, love, and respect him, Liang Yusheng has been very happy all his life.
Harvard University did an experiment on what affects people's happiness.
It turns out that happiness is not about wealth and fame, but only about who you get along with.
Indeed, life is an ocean, and everyone is an island.
In the ebb and flow of the tide, there are always moments when you are alone and suffering.
But there will always be some people, such as the mountain breeze, like the warm evening sun, who will inadvertently illuminate your life.
When you meet such a person, please don't let go.
Because, with them, passion may go away, but romance is immortal.
There is a saying on the Internet that says: "Our love has not faded, but solidified." ”
If the relationship is weak, it can be cultivated again, but when the relationship is solidified, it can only suffocate to death.
And "cold" violence is the culprit of emotional solidification.
Sometimes, its lethality even transcends quarrels, resentment, and anger.
Therefore, when dealing with the problems in life, do not blindly treat them coldly.
With the enthusiasm of the first meeting, with the piety of the company, your relationship can come to the end.
Of course, if your temperature never gets along, it's better to let it go.
Don't let your beauty be consumed by unworthy relationships.
Light up at the end of the text[Looking].May you go on the road with warmth and meet people who are equally warm.