We are all ordinary people, wandering in the world, looking for a harbor to dock into. However, the harbor is where we are inside, not the arm of others.
One. Born as human beings, we meet, know, and blind dates with others. In the colorful sea of people, we look forward to sincere friendship and warm family.
However, there is no other way to get along with people, and that is to maintain a proper sense of distance.
Intimacy is indispensable, there is room for trust, and there is room for any relationship. Expose your heart and spiritual garden, and open your heart rashly, what you get is often not what you expect.
Sincerity must have repercussions, but not everyone deserves to confide in them. Take a step back and open the sky, take care of your own garden, and dredge the bridge in a timely manner, so that you can coexist with people and beauty.
In the world, we are all pursuing a state, a comfortable way to get along.
But we tend to forget that comfort comes from within, not from the outside. Comfort is our emotional state, not a response from others. On the road of socializing, we need to remind ourselves all the time
Don't be a burden to other people's lives, and don't let others be a burden to our lives.
Every life has its own unique rhythm, and we should exist to make this sonata richer and more harmonious, not to create incongruous noise.
Two. Only by having an independent heart and knowing how to keep a distance from others can we appreciate the unique experience of life. A person's growth needs to be nourished by solitude.
A person's home needs their own space. A relationship needs a habitat that is independent of each other. We all desire to be understood, to be accepted, to be needed.
But too much expectation comes from our unrealistic imagination of others. We can't ask others to be what we want them to be, just as we can't fully integrate into other people's worlds.
The most important thing in getting along with people is equality and respect. Don't step into the spiritual territory of others, and don't open up your whole selves.
Sincere friendship will naturally sublimate in the accumulation of time. The love of relatives also needs space for longing to take root and sprout.
In the care of parents, it is necessary for children to grow up on their own. We are all looking for a balance in life that is neither depleted nor spoiled.
Keep your distance, not for isolation or defense. It's a kind of self-respect, an understanding of the rhythm of other people's lives.
We all move forward in different melodies, and between the notes, we need to pause at intervals, and we need to adjust the harmony so that a variety of sounds can form a beautiful music.
Three. So, how do we find our own sense of distance and rhythm on the road of socializing?
1. We need to understand that it is normal for people to have differences between people.
Don't force everyone to be what you think everyone is. You and I are changing, and so will our relationship.
Treat people sincerely, selfless dedication, but what you get is complaints; Maybe that's the difference between you and me. You don't have to blame others, and you shouldn't ask yourself to be different.
Understanding and accepting differences, and maintaining one's sincerity is the way to be comfortable.
2. We must learn to refuse.
Refusal that does not violate conscience can protect one's dignity. Have the courage to say no to unreasonable demands from others, or things that are beyond your ability.
Only by stating your position and bottom line can you win real respect. Most people would rather face a sincere rejection than accept a hypocritical promise. Because that would shake the foundation of the friendship of the right.
3. Learn to express your emotions.
Don't always keep your emotions to the bottom of your heart. Joy, anger and sorrow are all human nature, and expressing emotions is a bridge to communicate and get along. Only by having the courage to express oneself can we gain understanding and change.
Convey your inner thoughts in a gentle, honest way that moves people's hearts. Stick to your true self and live your own life to have peace of mind.
Four. We are all passers-by in this world, experiencing the joys, sorrows, and sorrows of life in a limited time.
Spending time with people, keeping a distance is not about isolation, it's about connecting; Not for precaution, but for understanding; Not for harm, but for growth.
On this social path, we are all looking for our own rhythm. Set aside space, focus on your heart, and treat every soul who passes through life with sincerity.
Whatever the outcome, when you set off again, the sun will shine on the new path.
We are born to be human, respectful, understanding, tolerant, open and distancing, so that our existence will not become a shackle to others, and our lives will be enriched by the presence of others.
This is life, there are gatherings and scattering, there are sounds and sounds, and together they compose a symphony of life.
Let us be at ease in love, in the company, and with an open heart, to experience this life-enlightening journey.