When it comes to the word "unlucky", everyone avoids it.
After all, in people's bones, they all hope that they will have good luck and receive good fortune.
There are exceptions to everything, as Balzac said"There is at least a little advantage of a person being unlucky, and he can recognize who is a true friend. ”
Unlucky things are not useless, they can make us see ourselves clearly, recognize the sophistication of people, from overbelieving in luck to walking down-to-earth.
The question is, how can we recognize "bad luck" and turn our fortunes around?
Zeng Guofan said: "There are many people who ask for it, and it is also fate to get it even if you ask for it." Enron will accept it, not necessarily not, and it will be more than oneself. ”Everything is certain, instead of complaining about bad luck, it is better to actively change yourself as a new starting point of destiny.
"Being smart is mistaken by being smart": A person is unlucky because his "scheming" is too heavy.
In the twenties of the last century, warlordsZheng ShiqiOrdered to exterminate the banditsSun Meiyao
Not long ago, Sun Meiyao and her subordinates stopped the train to Tianjin, kidnapped a group of foreigners, and demanded money.
It stands to reason that Zheng Shiqi's suppression of bandits belongs to the righteous side, but he has too many ideas. He had his soldiers surround the hill where the bandits lived, attacking every day, but there was no real confrontation.
Sun Meiyao quickly saw through Zheng Shiqi's trick and only sent people to conduct peace talks, but did not let the foreigners go.
If one plan fails, another plan will be born", Zheng Shiqi sent a signal to his superiors to appoint the air force to bomb the bandits.
The boss thought that the bombing operation, which might cause foreigners to be injured as well, would not work. Zheng Shiqi insisted repeatedly, so the Air Force was dispatched.
When using the stratagem, Zheng Shiqi did not find that several Germans quietly infiltrated the bandits' residence and prepared for the rescue operation. Thus, when the planes bombed, the Germans were killed.
Obviously, Zheng Shiqi went through a lot of troubleEight hundred enemies were lost, and one thousand were self-inflicted.
Writer Hai Yan said: "When a person's cleverness is always shown in the form of trickery, cleverness is not so likable." ”We often say, "The wicked have their own grinding." ”
When doing things, if there are crooked ideas, then the chance of hitting the right one is very small, and there are many opportunities to lift a stone to hit one's own feet. Therefore, the idea of countering evil with evil and countering violence with violence will not work, and wisdom is used in the wrong place.
"One misstep becomes a thousand hatreds": A person is unlucky because he did not seize the opportunity.
During the Chinese New Year in 1924, bandits in Jinan caught Ge Xiesheng, the head of the Jiaoji Railway Section, and demanded a ransom of 80,000 yuan.
The local government took active action to rescue Ge Xiesheng, but his family believed that it was better to pay the ransom, otherwise it would arouse the anger of the bandits, and the consequences would be unimaginable.
After a period of fundraising, the Ge family did not scrape together enough 80,000 yuan, which led to the situation quickly deteriorating.
Knowing the situation, the bandits decided to lower the ransom to fifty thousand.
The tragedy is that the bandits who got the ransom suddenly heard the gunshots, saw the officers and soldiers, and thought that the Ge family was not trustworthy, so they harmed Ge Xiesheng.
We should condemn the actions of the bandits, but we don't agree with the Ge family's approach. After all, the Ge family had several opportunities to get Ge Xiesheng out of the control of the bandits.
Opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared, but also for those who make decisive decisions.
When a person's luck is bad, see if they have lost a lot of opportunities that can change their fate? You'll soon understand what's going on.
When I was in junior high school, I didn't seize the opportunity of the high school entrance examination, which caused me to not be able to go to high school; After I arrived in junior high school, I didn't work hard, but messed around, which led to the loss of the opportunity to enter university.
When you reach adulthood, you are picky about your work, and you lose the opportunity to find a job. If you start your own business and have a good idea, but you don't take action, it's also unfortunate.
When I retired, I didn't exercise as much as I always did, and I didn't know how sad I was when the pain came.
There are also opportunities such as love, parenting, promotions and salary increases, and it is not surprising that if you miss them, it is a pity and bad luck.
"Kindness is regarded as a donkey's liver and lungs": A person is unlucky because he is too kind.
For a while, we saw actor Sun Li being denounced by a poor student named Xiang Haiqing.
Xiang Haiqing believes that Sun Li has a lot of money, but the money given to him is too little, and he is obviously a person who is "small-bellied and extremely arrogant".
And Sun Li was troubled because of this, causing the family to be worried.
Tracing back to the source, the coming of bad luck was because Sun Li continued to donate to Xiang Haiqing, and later Xiang Haiqing developed the habit of "reaching out", and his life became more and more vain, and his spending became more and more powerful.
In our work, we need to be precise, and the same is true when we are happy to help others.A person's kindness is not true kindness if it does not grow teeth. This sentence is not easy to understand, but when you understand it thoroughly, you will suddenly understand.
We often say that "little ghosts are difficult", and the ** of "little ghosts" is often found by themselves.
If you help too many people, others will rely on you; People who have been helped all the time will become lazy and lazy, and their lives will fall further into a trough.
Do more things to send charcoal in the snow, give people more opportunities to make money, and less to give people icing on the cake. Avoiding being too kind is the self-discipline that should be done.
There are many reasons for a person's bad luck, but in any case, you must find the reason from yourself and don't resent others.
Calm down and see if you have done something immoral? Is it offending the interests of others? Was there any hesitation? Cognitively, isn't the level too low? When doing good deeds, do you think about the results?
Correct yourself from two aspects, and bad luck will be easily lifted.
One,See clearly the philosophy of good fortune and misfortune and the exchange of good fortune and misfortune, and when you are unlucky, you should resolve it with a positive attitude. After all, the opposite of bad luck is good luck. You are brave enough to walk the right path, and you are not afraid of shadows.
Second,Be a person who can plan the situation, curb bad things in the bud, and guard against bad things when good things happen. ** Take a long view, see the ending from the very beginning of things, and ensure that you move forward in an orderly manner.
Please believe that when you are destined to be unlucky, you will also be destined to have good luck.
Therefore, you don't complain that you are unlucky, the good and bad of fate account for half, why are you always in the "bad half" and unwilling to come out.
If you walk into the circle of positive energy with positive energy, you are surrounded by good people, and bad luck will not be able to get close to you.