We Chinese have a traditional saying called "the female protagonist inside the male protagonist outside". It means that small things in the family, such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, etc., should be taken care of by women. And to do business and prosper the family, interpersonal communication and other major matters should be taken care of by men. So when did this statement come from, where did it come from, and is it reasonable? Today, let's talk about it together.
The image of "female protagonist and male protagonist outside" can be traced back to the ancient times thousands of years ago. Its original theoretical basis is derived from the family hexagram of "Zhou Yi". The family hexagram illustrates the relationship between the way of governing the family and the social atmosphere.
Let's start with hexagrams. The family hexagram is the inner hexagram, and the outer hexagram is the Xun hexagram. From the hexagram, first of all, we see that the family should have big and small, the eldest daughter is on the top (Xun hexagram), and the middle daughter is on the bottom (Ligua). Let's take a closer look at the hexagram and the elephant, in the family hexagram, the hexagram is the internal hexagram, and in the hexagram, the yin hexagram occupies the yin position, and it is also "in the middle". This reveals to us that in this internal hexagram, the woman (Yin Yao) is both neutral and upright, and it is really called gentle, virtuous and sensible. So, she was able to keep her home in order. Moreover, this divination has a bright image. The woman manages the house with a clean window, and the family occupies its own place, and the mood is comfortable. Not only that, but the 62 Yao (hostess) in the center of the inner hexagram corresponds to the 95 Yao of the outer hexagram. In the family hexagram, the ninety-five family symbolizes the male host. The husband sings and the wife follows, the husband and wife have one heart, and the loess turns into gold. It is precisely because of this that the male owner also seems to have a very high status outside (the respect of the ninety-five), and even has the prestige of the nine (Xun hexagram is the most superior). As the so-called family and everything is prosperous, behind every successful man, there is a virtuous woman.
From this point of view, the statement "female protagonist inside and male protagonist outside" is still very reasonable. Although, today's society has always advocated equality between men and women. However, after all, men and women are different, and each has its own strengths. If a family is prosperous and declining, in the long run, it will be very unfavorable to the development of a family and the cultivation and education of children. At the same time, the revelation given to us by the family hexagram has another important meaning, that is, in a family, each family member must occupy his own position and perform his own duties. No matter what matters are involved, when making decisions, there must be a master and a secondary, and they must be "corresponding" and consult with each other.
The old saying "female protagonist inside and male protagonist outside" is often said and mostly followed, but we don't know that this "avenue" comes from "Zhou Yi". It is really "the people don't know it every day", and the Chinese culture is broad and profound.