Recently, I have been in love for the first time, and I am full of expectations for love!
But before we fall in love, we still need to be prepared.
The 5 books recommended today will deeply analyze the most sensitive and taboo topics in the relationship between men and women
Help you navigate the emotional world.
Whether you're getting ready to fall in love or you're about to get married, give it a read and lay a solid foundation for your love journey!
1, "Intimate Relationship".
Author: Roland Miller Douban score: 93
In the relationship between men and women, there are always many issues that are unpredictable and difficult to come to a conclusion.
For example,Why do some people always fall into the vortex of habitual cheating?
Is there really pure friendship between men and women?
Can former lovers become friends?
This highly regarded Douban 93 points love encyclopedia, in-depth analysis and interpretation of these confusing questions.
The book explains the nature of friendship from a psychological point of view:
Friendship is an equal partnership with no exclusivity, no sexual connotation.
However, once a friendship with the opposite sex is too close, it can trigger sexual associations, making what would otherwise be a pure relationship delicate and dangerous.
In addition, the book also covers many ideas that subvert traditional cognition, so that you can't help but sigh at the depth and depth of it during the reading process.
After reading this book, we will realize that intimacy is an esoteric science.
The sooner we see the full picture, the closer we will be to quality intimacy.
For those who are eager to understand the mysteries of the relationship between men and women, and those who are looking for high-quality intimacy
This book is undoubtedly an invaluable guide.
2, "Happy Marriage".
Author: John Gottman Douban score: 91
How can you ensure a long-lasting happy marriage? The answer to this profound question is found in this book!
Gottman, the author known as the "Pope of Marriage", has observed the marriage relationships of more than 700 couples after 40 years of in-depth researchThe typical characteristics of unhappy marriages are summarized.
Through vivid practical cases, he not only pointed out the pitfalls that are easy to step on in marriage, but also provided solutions.
Gottman emphasizedThere are four common reasons for breaking up families – criticism, contempt, justification, and the Cold War
It often stems from statements that seem trivial but are actually extremely destructive.
For example, "Can't you have a longer memory?" Or, "Haven't I helped you often?" ”
The destructive power of these words on marriage is comparable to that of nuclear **.
On the contrary,What really nourishes a marriage is mutual understanding and respect, not indifference and selfishness.
For friends who are about to enter the marriage hall, this book is undoubtedly a valuable "marriage Bible".
It's worth cherishing and reading from time to time.
3. Psychology of Sexuality
Author: Havelock Richard Douban score: 83
Of the many issues in the relationship between men and women, which one is the most awkward?
believes that for Chinese, this is undoubtedly "sex".
However, the quality of sex often directly determines the quality of intimacy.
Therefore, I especially recommend this book, which is known as a classic of sexual psychology, written by Richard Richard, a great psychologist on a par with Freud.
This book will give you an in-depth understanding of sexuality, love, and the relationship between men and women, covering a wide range of topics such as childhood, sexual drive, sexual orientation, love, marriage, sex education, and more.
Have you ever wondered how to properly express your sexual needs?
Sex or love, which is more important in a relationship?
How do you feel about sensitive topics like sex?
This book will provide you with scientific and professional answers.
Finally, I would like to take this opportunity to appeal to stop avoiding the topic of "sex" or simply treating it as a taboo.
Understanding sex, in fact, is the process of understanding one's own body, mind, and desires, which is essential for the happiness of intimate relationships.
Let's be more open and rational to ** and understand this indispensable part of life.
4, "Emotional Blackmail".
Author: Susan Foward Douban score: 82
What exactly is "emotional blackmail"?
It is bondage to the other person in the name of love, relentlessly demanding time, attention, money, and energy.
This practice is particularly sinister in relationships between men and women, but it is often difficult for the victim to detect it.
Luckily, the best-selling 20-year-old psychology classic provides us with deep insights.
The book was written by Susan Foward, a doctor of psychology with 25 years of experience in counselingCombining real cases with clinical diagnoses, it helps us break free from the trap of manipulation in the name of love.
Controlling, self-centeredness, cold violence, and debasement are all common tactics used by emotional blackmailers.
The essence of emotional blackmail is that the stronger party uses fear, responsibility, and guilt to manipulate the weaker party to satisfy its own selfish desires.
Many of the cases in the book are shocking and provide profound warnings.
Whether you're in a relationship or not, you should take a look at this book to keep yourself emotionally safe
and learn how to love others in a healthier and more balanced way.
5, "How I Don't Like a Person".
Author: Jackson McKinsey Douban score: 77
I highly recommend that the editor consider changing the title of the book to "Scumbag Identification Treasure"!
in this book30 ways to identify scumbags are introduced in detail
15 Minute Quick Breakup Strategies and 7 Ways to Regain Your Dignity
It aims to help female friends see through the tricks of scumbags and avoid suffering double losses of money and emotions in their emotions.
For example, the book profoundly exposes the PUA techniques commonly used by scumbags, who often manipulate your emotions through language and psychological cues, making you ignore your inner feelings.
They first exalted you, then deliberately belittled you, trampled on your dignity, and finally left you ruthlessly.
This kind of behavior is outrageous!
The reading of this book left me deeply outraged, but also impressed by the practical advice in the book.
I can't wait to recommend to all my female friends, **Ten Thousand Fans Incentive Program to keep you clear in love and avoid getting hurt.
Whether you're new to the love scene,
Or a warrior who has been wounded in love, this book is your indispensable companion.
It can heal your past wounds and allow you to rediscover your happy self!
So, hurry up and read this book, add locks to your emotional life, and protect your sincerity and happiness!