You obviously don't feel that the other party cares about you, but you still don't want to give up; Obviously in a weak position in the relationship between two people, but I still don't want to take my attention off him; obviously can't see the hope of two people living together, but they still deceive themselves and fantasize about staying with each other for a lifetime. In a relationship, you are controlled, bullied, and neglected, but you still don't give up on the relationship.
Why do you insist on maintaining this relationship despite feeling pain and suffering? Generally speaking, such people usually receive relatively limited attention and love in the process of growing up. At the beginning of your relationship with the other person, perhaps the other person once brought you a very warm and special feeling, and you enjoyed this feeling, and at the same time you were deeply attracted to it. However, when you find that as time goes by, the other party seems to have changed, and it is the same as the two people who loved you and loved you before. You remain in the place of memory,You are eager to establish a deeper connection with the other person, so you endure unwillingness and pain, and continue to output like crazy. Despite the unpleasantness and discomfort, you are reluctant to leave.
Such a reaction is similar to:"Compulsive repetition".For example, when I was young, I was often denied by my parents, and when I grew up, I would keep repeating this experience to compensate for the lack of attention and love. Even if you are hurt, you will maintain the relationship because of a little benefit and softness from the other party. They all have injured children living in their hearts, thinking that if they work harder, they can make each other change their minds.
There is a logical truth behind everything that is unreasonable. At the end of the day, you don't want to leave, not because the other person has hurt you deeply, but because the pain you feel is not enough. You keep giving your own psychological cues, believing that the other person can be influenced by you, so you will continue to reinforce your behavior, and as a result, your overacting behavior will only make the relationship worse.
There is an effect in psychology called the "Goebbels effect", when a lie is repeated 100 times, it has the potential to become "truth". Positive hints are meaningful for the adjustment and construction of mentality, but blind optimism is not advisable, unlimited hints that "as long as you work hard, you will move the other party", in the end, it is likely that only you are touched, but others do not care about not cherishing.
When the other party finds out that you won't leave what you do, the other party can already pua you without any scruples, and even make you believe that "being hurt" is also a happy thing. Therefore, being able to adjust your cognition in the relationship in time to identify whether you really love each other and fall into the cycle of thinking you can't do without will have a very important guiding role in your next strategy. Leaving at the right time, stopping losses in time, and letting yourself go is not a good result.
In love