No, baby, it won't work. "
When we say this to a child who is about three years old, what exactly are we trying to convey?
This is a profound topic about boundaries and education. Setting boundaries is crucial on our children's path, but this boundary is not established through scolding, but rather a face-to-face communication, a demonstration of attitude.
Today, I would like to share with you how to skillfully set these boundaries in children's education without yelling and being harsh.
First of all,We need to understand that saying "no" to children is not a punishment, but an education.
When children behave inappropriately, our "no" is a gentle correction, a way of guiding them to the world.
For example, if a child runs around in public, instead of shouting a loud reprimand, we crouch down, look them in the eye and tell them in a calm and firm voice about the consequences of doing so.
This not only makes children feel the love of their parents, but also allows them to understand the boundaries of behavior.
As an example, my daughter once shared her experience. She took her children to Japan on a cruise, and she observed that most of the children who ran around on the boat were brought by their grandparents.
And those children who follow their parents are usually more disciplined. What does this mean?
This shows that parents' attitudes and behaviors have a direct impact on their children. Our children, their behavior is often a mirror image of us.
So, what should we do as parents?
First of all, we need to understand the stage of development of children and know what they need at different stages.
For example, rules. Rules are boundaries, and we need to clearly tell our children what they can do and what they can't.
For example, when it is time to go to bed, the child still does not want to sleep, we can not yell or scold, but read a storybook to let the child fall asleep naturally. This method is both gentle and effective.
The key to a child's education is to set reasonable boundaries and guide the child in an appropriate way.
We don't need to yell loudly, nor do we need severe punishments, we just need to use love and wisdom and the right methods to let children learn to respect and understand on the road of growth.
As parents, every decision we make, every communication, is setting an example for our children and laying the foundation for their lives. Let's work together to accompany children to grow up healthily with love and wisdom.