Hello everyone, I'm Jiuyue.
People who are prone to internal friction have a not-so-healthy habit -Overthinking.
A few insignificant words from others, you listen carefully, keep pondering, and drill the horns.
What could have passed quietly, you wasted a lot of time and energy to wrestle in your heart;
lives tangled and twisted, inner dramas come out one after another, and I can't get out of the dilemma of ...... thoughts
Internal friction is a person's mental hard labor.
No matter how much you think, you have no impact on others, no change in reality, but you are physically and mentally exhausted, and the rhythm of life is disrupted.
When you realize that you are caught in the whirlpool of internal strife, Jiuyue suggests that you do more of these things to regain your inner peace and a sense of order in your life.
01 Think more about yourself and less about others
If you are too concerned about the opinions of others, you will set up a cage for yourself and blindly cater to others, and you will only live less and less like yourself.
The Dutch writer Roy Martiner once said:
"One of the biggest breakthroughs in my life was to stop worrying about what others thought of me, and only become free when we didn't need praise from the outside world. ”Life is your own, it has nothing to do with others, when you no longer give yourself a preset audience, no longer ** how others perceive you; Instead, focus on yourself, please yourself, enrich yourself, appreciate yourself, and you will be able to live a relaxed life and gain more beauty!
02 Whenever you act in advance
People who are prone to internal friction have weak mobility, and they want to turn the sky upside down in their minds, but they can't take a step under their feet.
Therefore, to reduce internal friction, it is necessary to break the situation by improving action.
When Dong Yuhui interviewed writer Yu Hua, he once asked: How can I improve my writing level?
Yu Hua replied with a smile: "Don't care what you conceive, start writing first, you will find that the more you write, the more you feel." ”
Good writing is practiced, write with pen and concentration, and after a thousand tempers, you will definitely write more and more smoothly.
On the contrary, you are always thinking about how to be perfect and how to attract people, constantly entangled and hesitating, and you may not be able to hold back a sentence for a long time.
It's the same with writing, and it's the same with other things.
To know,Thinking is all about the problem, and doing it will have the answer.
Instead of standing in place and consuming energy, it is better to take the first step bravely, act and correct at the same time, and the result you want will slowly approach you!
03 Make your own decompression listYang Jiang said: There will be no simple happiness in the world, happiness is always mixed with troubles and sorrows, and there is no eternity in the world. Worries and worries are the normal state of life, and we need to find a suitable way to relieve stress to drive away the unhappiness in our hearts, such as:1."Cold treatment" of people or things that make you suffer internal friction, ignore them, and stop losses in time! 2.Learning self-compassion and treating yourself as your best friend, how would you comfort her? 3.Send a circle of friends that you can only see, and write down what you want to talk about, anxious, sad, and dissatisfied. 4.Cut down on negative inner conversations and engage in more positive self-talk. 5.Make a daily plan, build a sense of order in your life, and focus on the specifics. 6.When your mind is too tense, let yourself slow down, enjoy a flower, cook a meal, make a cup of tea, ......7.Take a hot shower, hide under the soft covers, and get a good night's sleep. 8.In my spare time, I don't think nonsense, I read, write, and water the flowers near the window. 9.Go for a bike ride by the river, hang out in the park, or lie on the lawn and watch the sky and bask in the sun. 10.Cleaning the house, putting things away, storing clothes for the season, and living in a clean environment will also make people feel refreshed. 11.Light the fire and cook your favorite meal. 12.Cultivate a hobby and make life more fulfilling......