What should I do if I can't speak?
At the end of the year, all kinds of drinking parties followed, which was really a headache. For many people, drinking may not be a big deal, but it can be difficult to get you to say a few decent words. Especially when you need to toast a leader or elder, the invisible pressure is simply overwhelming.
Truth be told, I used to be a person who was at a loss at the wine table. Every time it was my turn to speak, I always felt like my tongue was knotted, and I couldn't squeeze out a complete sentence for half a day. But over time, I have also accumulated some experience, and today I would like to share some of my experiences with you.
First of all, I would like to say, don't get too nervous. Being nervous will only make you more overwhelmed and prone to making it easier to say the wrong thing. Instead, relax and treat every table as an opportunity to showcase your talent and charisma, so you'll feel more confident and better able to handle situations.
Secondly, you need to prepare in advance. Before you go to a drinking party, think about the questions you might be asked and how you should answer them. This way, even if you encounter a similar problem at the actual wine table, you will be able to deal with it calmly and without feeling overwhelmed.
Of course, the most important thing is to learn to speak. Here, I would like to share three tips that I hope will be helpful to you.
The first trick: express yourself sincerely and impress the leader
When toasting the leader, in addition to paying attention to your own demeanor and posture, it is more important to express your thoughts sincerely. You can start from specific examples, thank the leader for their cultivation and care for you, and at the same time express your admiration and respect for the leader. Such words can not only make the leader feel relieved and happy, but also deepen his impression and favor of you.
Of course, you should also pay attention to proportions and tone when expressing yourself, and avoid being too exaggerated or too humble. In short, make your words both sincere and appropriate, so that you can really touch the heart of the leader.
The second trick: be humorous and witty, and win the hearts of your elders
When communicating with elders at the wine table, humorous words can often quickly bring each other closer. You can try to say something witty or humorous to make the atmosphere more relaxed and cheerful. At the same time, we should also pay attention to respecting the wishes and feelings of our elders, and not be too presumptuous or out of line.
In addition, you can ask some questions from your elders or share some of your own experiences. This will not only increase communication and interaction with each other, but also make the elders have a more favorable impression of your character and talent.
The third trick: be generous and get along with friends easily
When toasting with friends or colleagues, you can be a little more casual and relaxed. After all, everyone is an acquaintance and knows each other well. You can greet the person directly about their recent life and work, or thank them for their help and support at work. At the same time, it is also appropriate to look forward to future cooperation and development.
In short, when toasting with friends or colleagues, keep a down-to-earth attitude and don't be too reserved or nervous. In this way, the communication and interaction between each other can be more natural and pleasant.
Of course, in addition to the above three tips, there are many other precautions and details that we need to pay attention to at the wine table. For example, you should pay attention to controlling the amount of alcohol you drink to avoid excessive drinking that may lead to gaffes or embarrassment; Also pay attention to listen to the speeches and opinions of others, and respect the views and ideas of others; At the same time, it is important to maintain a polite and humble attitude, and not to be too flamboyant or arrogant.
Finally, I would like to say that communication and interaction at the wine table is not an easy task. It requires us to have certain verbal and social skills, as well as a sincerity, humility, and respect for others. Only in this way will we be able to deal with various situations at the wine table with ease, and show our talent and charm.
So, if you're also a person who is at a loss at the wine table, you might as well try the above three tips that I believe will help you. At the same time, you should continue to learn and improve your social skills, so that you can calmly and confidently respond to various challenges and opportunities in any situation.