Let's take a look at today's topic:Is he serious about you? Why do you feel insecure?
There are three groups from left to right, which are the first group, the second group, and the third group. Now let's calm down together, think about that person and today's topic, and choose the group you feel the most. Okay, have you made your choice? We started with the first group.
Judging from the cards, the person you think in your heart is still more sincere to you, and he will not hide too much from you or deceive you. Some friends may have just dated each other, or you haven't officially entered a relationship, but what I see is that the communication between you is quite smooth, and the development of this relationship looks good. As I said, it seems that he doesn't hide much from you, but you will still have suspicions on your side, you will guess the psychology of the other party, and you will not completely believe in some of his behaviors.
It's not that the other person's behavior is abnormal and makes you suspicious, but I think it's because your relationship itself is not stable, and it misleads you to have these thoughts. You don't feel secure, that's why you often think about it, and even wonder if the other person has other connections and is in contact with other people. But from my point of view, I think a lot of times you think too much, you are very unconfident in yourself, very insecure.
You may be one of the more emotional people in life, so you will pay attention to the other person, always pay attention to what he is doing, what he is thinking, and if you are always cranky, you will become sentimental and not in a good mood. Especially if there are some small contradictions and conflicts between two people, the feeling of uneasiness in your heart will be stronger.
But I want to say, in fact, it is inevitable that two people will have a dispute when they are together, and it does not mean that your relationship will not go on. If you find a problem and can solve it in time, it will be beneficial to your relationship, or it can help you understand each other better. If there is a problem, we can solve it, don't worry too much.
Now the board gives me the feeling that your energy is not very balanced, probably because you are putting too much energy into it, paying too much attention to each other, or catering too much to each other. Maybe he will also be stronger, occupying a dominant position in this relationship. So I still hope that you can find a balance in this relationship, such as trusting him more and thinking less. Especially for some friends who have just entered a relationship, in fact, there are still many variables in the future, and you need to face them well.
If you have always been like this and have not been confident, you may feel that you have to rely on the other person all the time in this relationship, but the more you rely on him, the more insecure you are, and it will make you doubt him often. In fact, if you always show that kind of doubt or insecurity in front of the other party, he will also feel that this relationship is not suitable for him, and your relationship will really develop in the direction you don't want to see.
If you really have a lot of concerns, you might as well tell the other party directly, and then the two of you will solve it together, and then don't worry about it anymore. Don't be worried all the time, and the other party will be annoyed if you ask you and don't want to say it directly. He doesn't know what to do to reassure you, and when his patience runs out, then I think your relationship is going to end.
I see the person in your heart, who is very clear about his needs and plans for the future. In fact, he is not ready to have a future with you now, maybe you think you like him very much and want to be with him, but I don't think there are too many deeper thoughts in him. You may also want to change this state, and you have tried many methods, but none of them have much effect, so you will feel very tired, and you will find that you are not rewarded for your efforts.
Let's take a look at the other person's thoughts, he may feel that now is not the time to take the relationship further, he thinks you need to give each other some time and space. In fact, his attitude makes you anxious all the time, and you will feel uneasy, and you can't help but urge him to give you an answer. But I would say that your current emotions have also affected your relationship, and you are so focused on him that you have neglected your life plan.
Tarot may be trying to tell you that you have to learn to control your feelings sensibly, not to be overly anxious, and not to expect too much from the other person's response. Love is not the whole of your life, you should look for more happiness to balance the uneasy emotions in your heart. You used to be attracted to him, but now it feels like you've lost that attraction, and your excessive attention is putting pressure on him. So for you now, it may be more important to find your past self and find your original intention.
He has a lot of things he wants to do now, and he wants to be understood by you, and he doesn't want to focus all his energy on feelings. Because he will feel that if you are tying him to himself, he wants you to be more familiar and independent, and your current emotionality will really affect him. It may be that your relationship is not as good as it used to be, but that doesn't mean that he has given up on you, he just hopes that you can spend more time on yourself and not revolve around him all the time. His ideal relationship is not the other party's blind giving and retreating, but the need for both parties to understand and find a balance.
Now his idea is to give you some time to figure it out for yourself, so that he also has his own time to do his own thing. Maybe he knows it's going to make you feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, but he still wants you to do it. Then my advice to you is to relax and take a step back and look at the relationship. The pace of life is already fast, don't let your state be so tense all the time, it will be difficult to adjust, and there will often be conflicts. Give the other person a little time, or give him a little room to adjust.
Then I believe that there are still conditions for your relationship to continue, and I feel that you both have each other in your hearts. But sometimes both of them are too attached to their own positions and ignore each other's feelings. A little more understanding and tolerance, and it will be fine.
I think there are a lot of problems in your relationship, and they will come up again and again. Actually, both of you care about each other very much, but the other person seems to be too strong compared to you. Especially when the two of you have a difference of opinion, he will show very stubbornness, that is, you must say what I think, otherwise I will be unhappy. Many times you are giving in, you are compromising, but in this process, you can't avoid pulling, and it is inevitable that there will be many contradictions and conflicts.
Maybe your original intention is to develop this relationship well, and you hope that the two of you can work together, but everyone's ideas are really different, and there will definitely be times when there are different opinions. So your repeated tugging will make both of you feel tired, and then the relationship becomes unstable. Then I still suggest that you should listen to the other person's opinion more and see what he really thinks and asks. But if you really can't accept the other person's opinion, don't force yourself to accept it, try to find a way that is acceptable to both parties.
From my point of view, your attitude towards this relationship is still sincere, but you may still have doubts about his attitude, and worry about whether he is sincere to you. So he will also feel that he is very wronged, obviously he is very sincere, you still doubt him, he feels that he has said everything he should have said, he has done everything he should do, if you are still doubting, he doesn't know what he can do to dispel your doubts.
Maybe in his heart, he doesn't want to say that this relationship is developing too quickly, and he will feel unstable. And the two of you do seem to be out of balance right now, and it's hard to continue with the joy you did at the beginning. So if you keep moving forward regardless of it, I think the problems will become more and more serious. It is better to solve the problems that can be seen now and make it clear first, so that many contradictions can be avoided. So you're going to be in a run-in phase now, and you're probably going to be a little bit tired, and you don't have much motivation, or a lot of strong ideas to improve the relationship.
In fact, I think what you lack now is the motivation to maintain this relationship, and you still have to find a breakthrough together to make this relationship continue to develop. For now, you will still be in this state of stagnation for the time being, and you also want a little more time from the other party, so that both of you can calm down and think about what to do in the future. His current attitude is not to say that he wants to let go of this relationship, I think he still hopes that you can go on well, but he doesn't know what to do now, you have to think about it. So the current situation is not good, but you shouldn't worry too much.
From my point of view, it will still get better in the future, if you don't take the initiative to find him, he will also take the initiative to find you, there is always someone who wants to take this step, it depends on who can't help it first. In general, he still cares about you very much, I hope you will get better and better, bless you.
Okay, that's all for today, we'll see you next time, bye-bye.