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Yihong recently had a sad experience, her father had passed away not long ago. In Yihong's opinion, her father is very assertive, while her mother is the kind of person who is more cowardly by nature. 's father has been very good to Yihong since she was a child, and he has always escorted her to school from childhood to adulthood, and he is obedient to whatever she wants. At the beginning of this year, her father passed away, which made Yihong feel very unaccustomed to it. During this time, her husband has always been by Yihong's side to comfort her. Gradually, Yihong is now becoming more and more inseparable from her husband, and she has to stick to her husband like a conjoined person every day, otherwise she will feel very uncomfortable.
My husband is a designer at a software company, and he often has work requirements for business trips. However, Yihong is now very dependent on him, and when she can't see him for a day, she feels panicked and anxious.
originally thought that after the psychological trauma caused by his father's death recovered, maybe the situation would be better, but Yihong's situation showed no signs of improvement at all. It's been half a year since her father died, and Yihong's mood has slowly calmed down. may be accustomed to finding a stable support psychologically, so Yihong is really inseparable from her husband now.
As long as her husband is on a business trip for more than three days, Yihong will be depressed and even lose her temper, feeling that life is not interesting, not only in life, but also because she can't raise her enthusiasm for work. Every time her husband goes on a business trip, she is especially worried. Because she didn't have any friends to talk to, she was the only one who went shopping alone. During the days when her husband was on a business trip, she felt that her heart was empty, as if something was missing, and she was very annoyed and felt that the days were very long, and she always didn't know what she could do or what would make her happy.
Now the situation is getting worse. If you don't see your husband Yihong for a day, you panic, and if you don't see her for two days, it's really the limit. As soon as her husband goes on a business trip, she will have insomnia, dizziness, and even faint in bed during the day, and every time her husband has to come back early to take care of her.
Actually, Yihong also knew that this was very bad, but she just couldn't help but keep her husband by her side. Even if I sometimes think that I want to be independent, I can't rely on him so much. But once her husband really has to go on a business trip, she can't stand it anyway. For this reason, my husband had to give up many business trips, including several business negotiations in France and Italy.
Not only is it dependent, but Yihong has become more and more suspicious. Sometimes her husband doesn't come home on time, and she feels miserable. Sometimes she would sneak through his phone to see if he was doing anything other than work, and if he was going to hang out with his friends occasionally, she would have to figure out what kind of friends they were, whether he was of the opposite sex, or if he was cheating.
In this way, not only is Yihong's psychological burden heavy, but her husband is becoming more and more annoying. Yihong herself was also very distressed, she felt that this was a bit abnormal, she kept asking herself in her heart, is she really a little psychological? What should she do?
Psychoanalysis
As an adult, Yihong always relies on her husband like a child. Obviously, Yihong's feelings are fragile, she is inseparable from her husband mentally and psychologically, and she has a sense of dependence on her husband, hoping that her husband can always be by her side, always care about herself, take care of herself everywhere, and share happiness and worries with herself.
Dependence is actually a mental illness called "dependency". The symptom is to place too much personal emotions on a certain person or group of people or a certain object, and regard it as one's spiritual support, which may be unbearable and even mentally collapsed once lost.
Generally speaking, most people with severe dependence have a narrow life circle, not much interpersonal communication, and too little emotional communication. Women are more likely to develop emotional dependence than men, and are more likely to invest strong emotions in a person, animal, or object, and produce a sense of need, satisfaction, and dependence in the process of investment, thereby strengthening inner self-affirmation. This relationship is gradually strengthened into a belief that sustains life. Emotional dependence on a person can put a lot of pressure on the person being depended on, and once this relationship is lost, the dependent person is often in pain.
Psychological prescription
The husband should pay the necessary attention to himself, but the husband has his own career and job, and has his own life content. The wife should be considerate of her husband and not be overly dependent on her husband, on the contrary, she should learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant in many things, and learn to self-regulate and balance psychologically.
Relying on others means giving up self-mastery, which often fails to form one's own independent personality. To overcome dependency, you can start from the following aspects:
1. We must face our own problems, admit the existence of dependence, and at the same time fully realize the harm of dependence, learn to think independently, and independent personality requires independent thinking ability.
2. If you want to get rid of emotional dependence, you can ask friends for help, make more friends, walk around with relatives often, and learn from people with strong independence.
3. Establish the courage to act in life, restore self-confidence, and cultivate the spirit of self-reliance. Make an effort to make reasonable plans and arrangements for your life. In addition, it is also necessary to cultivate one's ability to endure loneliness, learn to enjoy one's time, not to rely too much on someone or something, and to understand oneself objectively and correctly, which is a key step in overcoming dependence.
4. Enrich your own life content and cultivate independent living ability. Depending on your interests, you can change your current lifestyle, adjust your work and life rhythm, and do what you like to do in order to divert your attention and relax. If you do more outdoor activities by yourself and exercise more, it is also a good choice.
5. If the symptoms persist for a long time, you should seek medical advice from a professional psychologist in time.