One sentence a day
Recently, when I was reading the "Letter to Fu Lei's Family", there was an article that advised his son to be cautious in his words and deeds, warning him that if he said too much, he would be lost, and that the disaster would come from the truth.
Seeing this, I can't help but think of a recent civil dispute, Xiaomei and her boyfriend Xiaoqiang returned to their hometown to visit their grandfather during the Chinese New Year, in front of the unit of the old community of the grandfather's house, I saw an eldest sister repeatedly failed to park in the side direction, Xiaomei said to her boyfriend: "This parking is really not good, it should be right first and then to the left", somehow, this sentence was heard by the eldest sister who parked, who had thought that this eldest sister was anxious to brush and rushed out of the car to give Xiaomei a slap, Xiaomei was very innocent, and the two soon scuffled together, The two became angry and became angry, and even alarmed the surrounding neighbors for a time, and everyone withdrew under mediation.
It is annoying to hurt people, from Xiaomei's point of view, she is really innocent, just casually saying an unintentional word, but it causes trouble, and she is too talkative, easy to cause trouble, and cause unnecessary trouble for herself. Grasp the proportions of speaking at all times, pay attention to the occasion, identity, and interlocutor of the speech, so that the words can be said to the most scale, which is a small suggestion from the perspective of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages.
From the perspective of fairness, we can protect our rights and interests through formal channels, but "this slap" you can say that you are really wronged, and in the end, you can only make the person who beat the person apologize and give Xiaomei a certain amount of damages.
It is also a virtue to control one's own mouth, take one's own path, do one's own thing, repair one's heart, establish one's own virtue, and know others without judging others. From now on, I would like to warn myself to pay attention to my language and to renounce all mistakes in language.