My twenty four year old daughter is a miser, and she is very good at saving money, and it really wor

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-03-02

My twenty-four-year-old daughter is a miser, and she is very good at saving money, and it really worries me

I have a daughter, and it's really annoying to me.

She is 24 years old, a dragon, and is studying for a graduate degree. Although she has not yet started working, she already has 60,000 or 70,000 yuan in savings.

During her time at school, she was really a nerd, she didn't care about anything in the outside world, and only concentrated on reading. She doesn't have time to work, so her income comes mainly from scholarships, living expenses, and annual New Year's money.

We have only one precious daughter in our family, and I love her very much, and I am afraid that she will suffer hardship. I provided her with the best material conditions and never let her be strapped for money.

I thought that such a well-cared for daughter would not be affected by the material conditions of the boys around her, and would have the standard of both ability and political integrity to choose a boyfriend.

However, I didn't expect her to become a little miser, and she valued money more than anything else, which really baffled me.

She never dresses up, doesn't wear makeup, and doesn't pursue fashion. She didn't even make many friends, and every time she came home to see her relatives and friends, they thought she was still in high school.

She always wears a ponytail with a black hair tie, wears simple and modest clothes and sneakers, and never pays attention to her outfits.

Although she has a set of high-end cosmetics, she only uses them on important occasions, such as participating in a scholarship defense or sharing her experience with younger students.

Usually she only cleans with cleanser, and she doesn't think it's worth spending too much time on her face, and it's not good for **. She always said that "clear water comes out of hibiscus, and it is natural to carve".

When shopping, whenever she sees more than five hundred clothes, she will look at me. It had become a tacit signal between us, meaning that she wanted me to "slip away". Even though I thought she was very beautiful in those clothes, I could only cater to her wishes and leave the store for a while. When she got home, I made an excuse to go out and quietly buy the clothes back. Although she would count a few words to me, the slightly raised corners of her mouth always revealed her happy mood.

We often remind her to eat more fruits and vitamins at school. However, she always complained that fruits in Shanghai were too expensive to buy. In fact, fruits are expensive. She has 20,000 or 30,000 pocket money in WeChat, and she is fully capable of buying it, but she is not willing to buy it. So, we had to buy the fruit and send it to her.

Once, she also shared the experience of saving money, saying that it is cheaper to buy snacks and fruits on "Pinduoduo" than on **. I've never tried to shop at Pinduoduo and always feel that cheap things are not of good quality and unreliable. Unexpectedly, she was already well versed in the advantages of "Pinduoduo" at a young age.

Every month, we transferred 2,005 living expenses to her on time, plus an average of more than 2,000 graduate student subsidies and some holiday red envelopes, so she theoretically lived a carefree life. But she just wouldn't spend money.

I've been trying to persuade her, telling her that our family doesn't need her to be too frugal. In Hangzhou, we already have a house, and my wife and I are both people with stable careers, and we have a secure life after retirement. It was enough for her to just learn to be self-sufficient, but she couldn't seem to change.

Despite this, she is very willing to spend money on her family. On my birthday, she sent me a lot of high-end cosmetics. When she won the undergraduate special scholarship, she also bought us a lot of valuable gifts.

Not long ago, my father had surgery in Hangzhou, and when she heard the news, she immediately asked for leave to accompany her grandfather, and all the expenses were borne by herself.

Although frugality is a virtue, excessive frugality can limit her development in other areas, such as social skills. Reasonable consumption needs can promote the development of individuals, and blindly restricting one's own consumption will only make her world more and more narrow.

Alas, this really makes me frown!

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