Every time I read the post of the tree hole linking marriage and money, I can't help but sigh that life is really not like this. It's not that the calculations and calculations are wrong, it can only be said that if you calculate every gain and loss clearly, every step of struggle, compromise will be resentful, and if you don't compromise, the sky will fall apart. So it's always unhappy. Should it be calculated? The, if you don't plan your own life, you may lose more.
So what to do? What do you want? But in fact, looking at it for a long time, some calculations, peers see it as gains and losses, and the elders of the five children look at it, it's really just Mimi shrimp. Of course I don't know. Anyway, there will be a solution to any problem. What can be solved by a breakup, don't wait for a divorce to be solved. I don't have any chain of contempt for men and women after divorce, I'm just a lifelong marriage lover.
The fundamental solution to the bride price problem is for the two families to sit down and talk, and if they know each other, they should ask a well-known elder who knows both sides to negotiate as an intermediary. When posting on the Internet, first of all, the description of the objective and subjective problems is completely different. Secondly, it's really useless, there is no contempt for netizens, the money problem between marriage and love is Schrödinger's cat in itself. It's not a pimple on my face, if I have a pox, I asked netizens, and everyone recommended me to use ointment. The face is good. If it's a different place, you still have to sit down and talk to your parents, and if you can't get along, really, you can break up, don't get divorced.
Money issues in marriage have always been complex and sensitive. It's not just about material distribution, it's about emotion, trust, and responsibility. On this issue, each person and every family has their own unique situation and opinion, and there is no absolute right or wrong.
When we are faced with these complex issues, we must first be clear about our needs and expectations. Is it the pursuit of material abundance, or is it more important to value emotional communication? Do you want the other person to be financially independent, or are you willing to share the responsibilities of the family? Only by being clear about our expectations can we better communicate with each other and find common solutions.
At the same time, we need to learn to listen and understand each other's thoughts and feelings. Money issues often involve personal values and lifestyles, and everyone has their own insistence and bottom line. In the process of communication, we need to respect the other party's point of view and find a balance that is acceptable to both parties.
When we encounter problems that cannot be solved, we also need to have the courage to face and choose. If the parties really can't come to an agreement, maybe a breakup or divorce is a relief. But before that, have we really tried to communicate, understand, and compromise? Did you really work hard for this relationship?
In closing, I would like to say that no matter how we choose, we are responsible for our own decisions. Marriage is a responsibility and commitment that needs to be managed and maintained with care, no matter who we choose to spend our lives with. In this process, the issue of money is only one part of it, and what is more important is whether we are willing to put in the effort and time for the relationship.