On the fourth day after giving birth, I sat in front of the bed, staring at her little one in front of me and crying, I knew that it was a postpartum hormone ...... at work
So why postpartum depression?
1. The effects of hormones in the body.
The postpartum hormone cliff decline, will seriously affect the mother's mood, may be inexplicably irritable, uncontrollable want to cry, abnormal sensitivity, etc., when the mood is low, unconsciously it is easy to drill the tip of the horns, it is easy to ignite a little in some small things.
2. Role reversal.
Life has just entered a new role, everything has become confusing, the baby's crying, always coaxing the mother to fall asleep makes the mother scramble, the cracked nipples, the deformation of the body makes the mother in a worse and worse state, both physically and emotionally, the mother is on the verge of collapse.
3. Poor rest.
Frequent feeding, constant diaper changes, others can take turns watching the baby, but the mother needs to be on duty 24 hours a day.
Fourth, the conflict of ideas.
There is a conflict with the parenting style of the previous generation and the concept of confinement, and there is a conflict.
Fifth, the sense of disparity.
Everyone pays attention to the child, no one will care about whether the mother is tired or not, whether the knife hurts or not, will only pay too much attention to the "milk" will blame the mother for eating less, worrying that the baby will not have enough milk to eat ......If the mother has negative emotions or can't help but break down and cry, she will feel that the mother is hypocritical.
So how to prevent postpartum depression?
First, the husband has to give strength.
Give new mothers more attention, understanding, and support, allow her to express her negative emotions, don't blame at will, and don't be too demanding. When she breaks down or is unhappy, it is necessary to enlighten in time, sometimes a hug can relieve all the unhappiness. Give her more company, when she feeds the child, you can help her stuff a pillow in the back, maybe take care of the baby a lot of the mother needs to do, but the father is not absent, even a small gesture, will make the mother feel that someone is with her, rather than asking her to "boil" by herself.
Second, don't put pressure on your family.
When the child is crying, don't blindly blame the mother, and don't always say that the milk is not good.
Don't give birth to a second child at this time.
3. Learn to confide.
Talk to a good friend or husband about your unhappiness, chat, relax and relax, and avoid the accumulation of bad moods.
4. Learn to reconcile with yourself.
Learn to affirm yourself, don't always feel that you are not good enough, it may be the mother's nature, she has done her best, but she always feels indebted. Accept your own shortcomings, children will inevitably have minor illnesses and pains, understand that this is universal, and don't be overly anxious.
Fifth, the family should be more supportive.
As a first-time mother, you don't know a lot of things, you need more help from your confinement sister-in-law or the elders in the family, and new mothers also need to support your growth to help new mothers through this transition period. Secondly, take more responsibility for housework and other work with children, give mothers more time to rest and recover, and sleep more, and the bad mood will be reduced a lot.
Speaking out for postpartum depression is not hypocrisy, nor is it making a fuss, I just hope that more and more people can be aware of postpartum depression, so as to give more care and understanding to new mothers.