In Zhuangzi, there is a famous fable "The Cry of Liji", when Liji was a bride and married to Jin Xiangong, she was so sad that her clothes were soaked with tears. Later, when I came to the palace of the Jin Kingdom, I slept on a soft bed and ate delicious food from all over the world, and I realized how stupid it was to cry when I got married.
For many people, the reason for anxiety and internal friction is that they often live in worries and expectations for the future, and their hearts are filled with all kinds of distracting thoughts from time to time.
People often worry about the future and fear the future, but when you stop and think about the past, you may find that most of the things that worried you didn't happen at all, and the worries you had were just meaningless. And some of the things that worried you may sometimes surprise you when they do happen, just like Liki.
Some worries, even if they are inevitable, do not help. It's better to live today's day, after all, there are poems and distances ahead. Just as death is inevitable for everyone, is it possible to worry about it all your life?
Zhuangzi once said that people are afraid of death, but who knows if they will regret why they want to live after they die? Isn't this exactly the same as the situation before and after Lik's marriage?
More people, dissatisfied with the status quo, have more or higher requirements for the future. Living in anticipation and longing all day long, thinking day and night, ignoring the beauty of the present.
But among these countless expectations or dreams, there are often very few that can really be realized, and more of them are just futile.
The joy that comes with a few that can be achieved is sometimes short-lived, or nothing more than that. However, it takes a lot of time and energy to achieve this wish. The short-lived joy comes and a new look begins, and the cycle repeats. Many people live in anxiety and internal friction created by themselves.
When you look back, you may find that some of the dreams that you have longed for have been realized, but they feel like they are nothing more than that, or they are not as good as they are not obtained, and some of them are even painful for you.
For example, for many people who have experienced emotional failure, they have been worried about their stomachs and struggling to pursue the love or marriage they finally get, but it is like chewing wax, and even bringing the deepest harm to themselves, just like Qian Zhongshu said that the marriage siege is like a siege.
A person or relationship that has annoyed you from time to time and wants to get rid of it may become your permanent regret if the other person resolutely turns away.
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Some dreams that have been longing for you and have not been realized in the end will sometimes be lucky that you did not realize them in the first place.
Life and the future are impermanent, and one never knows what will happen tomorrow, whether what you are worried about or what you are looking forward to will be good or bad, and whether it will happen. Instead of living in vain and needless to worry and look forward to the future, anxiety and internal consumption of yourself, it is better to live in the present, discover and enjoy more of the beauty in front of you, and do today's things well.