2024-3-01 (Friday).
Husband and wife read a book and reading notes.
Principles of Ray. Dalio
Part 1 My Journey.
Excerpt p49 50:
In 1995, my wife, Barbara, and my 11-year-old son, Mai Xiu, decided that Mai Xiu would stay in Beijing for a year, attend an all-Chinese school, and live with our friend Aunt Gu. McHew doesn't speak Chinese, and none of his classmates speak English.
I'm excited for Matthew because I know he's going to see a different world and broaden his horizons.
Barbara needed some confidence and consulted a child psychologist several times in order to reassure her. But she has lived alone all over the world and knows how good such an experience can be for her. So, she eventually accepted the idea.
It was a difficult but life-changing experience that had a profound impact on his values and purpose in life.
Because he fell in love with China, and because he understood the value of compassion relative to material possessions.
So, when McHew was only 16 years old, he founded a charity, China Caring**, to help Chinese orphans with special needs, which he ran for 12 years (but to this day, but with much less investment), and then turned his main focus to reimagining how to develop computing technology in emerging market countries, and implementing this idea through his company, Infinity.
I also learned a lot from Mathew, especially the joy of doing charity, and we both learned that having good relationships can bring great joy to people.
Insight: 11-year-old Mai Xiu made a decision after discussing with his parents to go to school in a strange country, and he didn't understand the language at all. This is how enlightened parents are, and how autonomous and courageous children are. The truth is that this difficult experience changed his life.
I talked about her eldest daughter with a friend of the same candidate at dinner before, kindergarten and primary school from China to the United States and back to China to transfer to many schools, the conditions of the schools are very different, she does not understand the language, and she has suffered a lot. A few years ago, I went back to primary school with my parents, and I couldn't keep up in some subjects at first, but I kept up in the next few months and half a year and got good grades.
When I was a child, my parents worked in the Northeast, and I first worked as a left-behind child for a period of time, and then my parents took me over to live with them, so my primary school and junior high school were in the Northeast, which is why my Mandarin as a Sichuan person always has a smell of Northeast China. This experience made me see how hard it is for my parents to work outside the home, and I try to be an obedient and sensible child and study hard to get good grades to make them happy.
Now, I am a mother, and the conditions for my children are much better than when I was a child. However, I still believe that the necessity and importance of "frustration" education is indispensable. If you go to different environments to experience more, you will suffer some "hardships", but the exercise of adaptability behind the experience will have a deep understanding of different people living in different environments from different perspectives. In this way, you will develop a more tolerant personality and be more empathetic when you get along with others in the future.
Go through it, feel it, grow it!