My name is Li Fengying, I am 65 years old, and my son's name is Li Qiang, who is 35 years old this year and holds a middle-level management position in a state-owned enterprise.
He married a local girl named Zhang Xiaoli, and the two have been married for 10 years, and their relationship has always been very good.
My daughter-in-law gave birth to a lovely son, who is only 3 months old this year, named Li Tianbao, and is the baby of our family.
One Saturday afternoon a few days ago, my daughter-in-law suddenly came to my house by car and her face was not good-looking.
I hurriedly asked her to come into the house and sit down, and poured her a glass of water: "Xiaoli, what's wrong with you?" Your face doesn't look good. ”
The daughter-in-law took a sip of water and said, "Mom, I'm really troubled, I don't know what to say to ......."I sat down next to her and patted her on the shoulder: "Just say anything directly, it might be better to say it."
Mom will definitely give you her full support. ”
The daughter-in-law's eyes were red, and suddenly tears welled up: "Mom, I'm sorry for Brother Qiang, I did something sorry for him, and I want to divorce him ......."I was stunned: "What? Divorce? What's going on? The daughter-in-law choked up and said, "It's ......."I ......Cheating ......I'm really sorry Brother Qiang, but I'm too tired and annoyed......"Oh my God! I felt dizzy, "Who are you cheating on?" Tianbao is only three months old, how can you ......”
The daughter-in-law said excitedly: "It's a new young man from the company, he treats me well, and he attracts me."
I know I shouldn't, but it's already happened, I want to divorce Brother Qiang and start a new life with Tianbao on my own! I persuaded, "Xiaoli, calm down."
Brother Qiang has always been very good to you, and your relationship is also good, just because of a young man, are you going to ruin your ten-year marriage? Tempo is still very young, and without his father by his side, he will be pitiful.
Think about it again and don't make impulsive decisions. ”
The daughter-in-law whispered with red eyes: "I've been thinking about it for a long time, and I can't untie the knot."
If I continue with Brother Qiang, I will feel very tired and miserable.
I have decided to tell my mother the news today.
I hope that my mother can persuade Brother Qiang to agree to the divorce. ”
I was organizing verbal persuasion, and my daughter-in-law had already wiped away her tears and stood up: "Mom, I'll go back first, don't tell Brother Qiang."
Find a way to solve this matter, it's best to get him to agree to the divorce, don't embarrass me. ”
After saying that, the daughter-in-law turned around and left.
I was still in the same place, unable to calm down for a long time, and her words were like a blow to me, making it difficult for me to accept this reality.
Looking at the back of my daughter-in-law leaving, I couldn't calm down for a long time.
An hour later, my son came home from work, saw that my expression was wrong, and asked with concern, "Mom, what's wrong?" Is it unwell? I forced myself to calm down and said, "Son, I have something I want to tell you, you have to calm down." ”
What's the matter, Mom, don't scare me. ”
I pondered and said, "Yes."
Xiaoli came to me today, and she said she wanted to divorce you. ”
What the! The son's eyes widened, "Divorce? You're kidding! I sighed and told him the reason.
When the son heard this, he fell silent, and his face became unsightly.
After a long time, he said in a trembling voice: "I have to talk to Xiaoli well, she may have been stressed too much recently and has emotional problems, we can get through the difficulties together." ”
I advised him: "Son, Xiaoli's attitude is very resolute, and she may be having an affair."
You have to be mentally prepared and don't be too sad. ”
No, Mom! The son said firmly, "Our relationship is very good, it won't end so easily."
I'm sure Xiaoli still loves me, she's just confused for a moment. ”
Looking at my son's determined eyes, I couldn't say anything.
When I got home, I was very worried about my son's emotions.
Sure enough, in the days that followed, he was sluggish, pale, and noticeably slimmed.
Once, my son took an afternoon off and I saw him come home exhausted.
I couldn't help but ask him, "Son, did you go?" The son sighed: "I went to find Xiaoli, I want to have a good talk with her and save our marriage."
But she was adamant, saying that there was no hope for us and asking me to agree to a divorce.
Mom, I'm really sad, how did our relationship become like this? "Seeing my son burst into tears, I couldn't help but shed tears.
How can Xiaoli hurt my son's sincerity?
In the days that followed, I often heard my neighbors talking about Xiaoli.
She wore her short blonde hair and wore heavy makeup in and out of bars all day, seemingly living a drunken life, leaving her family and Tempo behind.
And my son is depressed every day, but he still works hard and wants to make more money to please Xiaoli.
I have advised my son many times that Xiaoli is no longer the same person she used to be, and that she should break off the relationship and start over.
However, the son always replied: "Mom, I believe that Xiaoli still loves me, she is just confused for a while, I want to touch her with love, and I will definitely be able to redeem her." ”
Looking at his emaciated but determined appearance, my heart sank, and I feared that he would exhaust everything in this failed relationship.
Just when I was worried that my son would be torn apart in the torment of this relationship, an unexpected discovery became the end of this marriage.
One day, I went to my daughter-in-law's house to help take care of Tianbao.
When I was changing Tianbao's diaper, I inadvertently noticed that my daughter-in-law had a purple-black tattoo on the inside of her calf, which clearly read "Zhang Eternal Love"! I was taken aback, Zhang was obviously the name of the young man in his daughter-in-law's company.
Is their relationship already so close? Looking at this conclusive evidence, I excitedly called my son: Son, come over immediately, I have something important to tell you! Ten minutes later, my son rushed into his daughter-in-law's house panting, and I silently pointed to my daughter-in-law's calf, and my son immediately froze.
Xiaoli, how can you do this! The son asked emotionally, "Is our marriage so worthless to you?" "When my daughter-in-law came home at this time, she was shocked to see us.
However, she quickly adjusted her state again and sneered: "Okay, since you have seen it, I won't talk nonsense."
I only have one man in my heart, Zhang, even if you don't agree, I will divorce you. ”
Okay, then let me meet this Zhang! The son was so angry that he was furious, "I want to settle accounts with him!" "Hey, you can see you anytime. ”
Mother and son have nothing to say to you.
Son, you quickly call your uncle and other relatives and friends to spread the word! Half an hour later, more than a dozen relatives and friends came to my daughter-in-law's house.
I pointed to my daughter-in-law's tattoo and told me what had happened.
Everyone talked about it, disappointed and angry at their daughter-in-law's cheating.
Xiaoli, do you have anything else to say? I asked solemnly.
The daughter-in-law looked at everyone for a while before she spoke: "I know you will all blame me, but I am really in love with Zhang."
Even if everyone doesn't agree, I will divorce Brother Qiang! "What a shameless man! Everyone said that they wanted to draw a line with such a daughter-in-law and cut off all contact.
Just as we were about to call the police to kick our daughter-in-law out of the house, a strange man suddenly pushed the door in and said loudly, "Stop it!" Xiaoli is mine alone, no one wants to hurt her! Everyone was stunned, and I went up to him and asked, "Who are you?" Why do you control my daughter-in-law's life? ”
The man stepped forward, hugged his daughter-in-law tightly, and said aggrievedly, "Auntie, my name is Zhang Xiaofei."
Xiaoli is my first love, and we have already made up our minds for life.
But then I went to study abroad and lost contact with her.
I've been abroad for ten years, and when I heard that Xiaoli was getting married just after I returned to China, my heart was broken.
I tried my best to find her, and finally I got my wish, and we still love each other as before.
The tattoo was evidence of our love affair back then.
Please put us back together! "My son and I looked at each other, and the sudden change was unbelievable.
Could this be the truth about the daughter-in-law's cheating? The son asked in a low voice, "Xiaoli, is this true?" Do you still love Zhang Xiaofei? The daughter-in-law stared at Zhang Xiaofei, her eyes full of excitement and love: "Brother Qiang, I'm sorry, but I really love him."
Over the years, I have never been able to forget Zhang Xiaofei.
Now that he's back, I just want to be with him. ”
Zhang Xiaofei held his daughter-in-law's hand tightly: "Auntie, Brother Qiang, thank you very much for taking care of Xiaoli over the years, but can I ask you to agree that we are together?" My son and I looked at each other and seemed relieved.
Fate has arranged it like this, and we can't force it.
Since it is Xiaoli's sincere desire, I will not force it. ”
The son sighed, "Xiaoli, I wish you happiness."
Zhang Xiaofei thanked him repeatedly, and left with his daughter-in-law in his arms.
Looking at their departing backs, I patted my son on the shoulder: "Son, everything will be fine, and mom will always be with you." ”
Seeing my daughter-in-law and her first love go away, I gently patted my son's shoulder, although there were still many doubts in my heart, but more relief.
The change was so sudden that I couldn't accept it for a while.
I thought about it and decided to go home first and give my son a little time to calm down.
When I returned home, I felt a little uneasy when I saw my son silently going out after drinking a few glasses of wine.
As a mother, I should understand my daughter-in-law's sincerity, but seeing my son in such pain, I couldn't help but blame my daughter-in-law's predecessor Zhang Xiaofei, if it wasn't for him, how could such a ridiculous misunderstanding happen.
Just as I was pacing back and forth in my room, trying to gather my thoughts, my son returned.
He looked at me with a complicated expression and said, "Mom, let's go out for a walk, I have something to say to you." ”
I could see that my son was trying to calm down, so I agreed to his request.
We came to the park and sat on a bench.
After a long time, the son spoke: "Mom, after today's events, I feel that although the road of life is difficult, it is also beautiful.
Whether or not Xiaoli really loves Zhang Xiaofei as much as she says she does, but she chose the path she really wants in her heart, which takes courage and I should respect it. ”
I took my son's hand and looked at him with emotion.
The son continued: "Actually, I understand that Xiaoli has long stopped loving me.
However, I have been deluding myself into wanting to redeem myself, which is out of my selfishness and arrogance.
I shouldn't have forced her to continue the relationship. ”
Son, you just love Xiaoli too much. ”
I couldn't help but defend him.
Yes, I loved her so much that I became selfish and extreme. ”
The son sighed, "I still can't understand her thoughts, and that's the root of the problem."
Mom, this incident has taught me a valuable life lesson, which is to learn to understand and tolerate others, rather than forcing others to fulfill their own wishful thinking. ”
I gently patted my son on the shoulder, and it felt like he had really grown from this blow.
Mom, I'm going to learn from this and move on with my life positively. ”
The son encouraged himself, "I don't complain about Xiaoli anymore, I just hope she can find true happiness."
I will also rediscover my passion for life and enjoy the freedom of being single.
Maybe one day I'll meet true love. ”
Son, Mom is so proud of you! "I can't help but hug the son in front of me who has gone through pain but still has hope.
A month later, when the moon was full, we had a small 100-day feast at home as originally planned.
Xiaoli and Zhang Xiaofei also came, we talked and laughed with each other, and the atmosphere was surprisingly harmonious.
Looking at Tianbao's innocent and cute smiling face, I thought to myself that he will eventually become the bond that will bring us back together and resolve the mustard.
When I picked up Tianbao and took a photo with my son, I knew that our family had gone through this unexpected storm, and although there were regrets, everyone had to grow.
I firmly believe that my son will slowly come out of the shadow of losing love and embrace the sunshine again; And Tianbao will also grow up healthy and happy under the double care of aunt and uncle.
Life is like an unpredictable storm, and we can't control its direction and can only do our best to protect ourselves.
And after the storm, there is always a ray of sunshine that reminds us that the world is still beautiful.
After the 100-day feast, I began to seriously reflect on what I had done during this time.
When I heard that my daughter-in-law was going to divorce her son, my first reaction was surprise and disappointment.
In my opinion, they are such a compatible couple, and their relationship is also in the honeymoon period, how can they suddenly divorce? I immediately blamed my daughter-in-law, thinking that she didn't know what to do, and wanted to abandon my son, a man who was always in love with her.
When she insisted on a divorce, I was even more angry, seeing her as a black sheep and just wanting to kick her out of the house as soon as possible.
However, the truth turned out to be far more complicated than I thought.
My daughter-in-law has actually always been deeply in love with another man, and her marriage to my son has been full of pain and compromise for her.
It would be unfair for me to think of her as a negative person.
As a mother, I should not be on my son's side at the beginning, but should persuade him to be tolerant and understanding of my daughter-in-law's difficulties.
However, not only did I not sympathize with my daughter-in-law, but I also kept instigating my son to divorce her and retaliate.
When I think about it, what I'm doing is too harsh.
Human nature and emotional matters are difficult to guess.
I shouldn't use my own standards to force others to be submissive.
It also takes great courage and determination for a daughter-in-law to make a divorce decision.
As a mother, I should have given her support and understanding, instead of criticizing and blaming.
What happened during this time made me realize that I was playing an inappropriate role in this family dispute.
A family should be based on mutual understanding and tolerance, rather than forcing obedience to authority.
I blamed my daughter-in-law and misled my son, and it was a disservice to them.
After much thought, I decided to face all this with a tolerant mindset.
Tempo is still so naïve, he deserves to grow up in a loving environment.
I will ask my daughter-in-law to find a time to have a good chat and express my apologies and understanding.
I will also encourage my son to put aside his prejudices, maintain friendship with his daughter-in-law, and work together for the future of Tianbao.
It is inevitable that we will encounter sudden difficulties in life, but as long as we maintain a tolerant attitude, we can turn war into peace.
This experience made me realize that as a mother, I should spread love instead of hate.
I sincerely hope that our family can repair the broken relationship and move forward to a better future together.
I believe that life is like the sea, although there will be ups and downs, but eventually it will return to calm.
The sun will still rise tomorrow, and each of us deserves a chance to start over.