Man should not be afraid of his enemies, but of his friends. Premchand.
In complex and volatile relationships, we are often told to stay away from the obvious "bad guys", those who are blatantly bad for us. However, some people who pretend to be "good guys" actually hurt us more because they often have a negative impact on us when we are unprepared. These people, although they are superficially amiable to us, can actually become obstacles in our lives because of selfishness, jealousy, or other hidden motives. There are three kinds of "good people" that we should be wary of and try to stay away from.
This type of person always seems to support you, and they are always the first to agree no matter what idea or plan you come up with. At first glance, this unconditional support may seem precious, but in the long run, it can be a stumbling block in your growth. A true friend should offer constructive criticism when necessary to help you identify your blind spots, rather than pandering to you. Excessive pandering can lead you to become overconfident and neglect the importance of self-reflection and improvement.
This type of person seems to hate conflict on the surface and always strives to play the role of a peacemaker in relationships. In order to avoid confronting the problem, they may choose to cover up the facts and use glorified language to hide the seriousness of the problem. While this kind of behavior may bring superficial harmony in the short term, in the long run, it will hinder the real solution of the problem and lead to greater misunderstandings and the accumulation of contradictions. People who genuinely care about you will choose to be brave enough to face problems, even if it means temporary unpleasantness.
This type of person always seems to be helpful and doesn't expect anything in return, but their help often comes with implicit conditions or expectations. They lend a helping hand when you need it, but in reality they want to use that "favor" to get what they want at some point in the future. This kind of transaction-based support relationship can be exhausting and uncomfortable in the long run. People who are genuinely willing to help you, their support is unconditional and doesn't make you feel burdened or owed anything.
In life, learning to recognize these people who pretend to be "good people" and stay away from them is essential to maintaining one's emotional health and the authenticity of one's relationships. We should pursue people who can truly help us grow, who can provide honest feedback when we need it, and who genuinely rejoice when we succeed. This kind of interpersonal relationship is healthy and long-lasting. In life's journey, we need people who can make us a better version of ourselves, not those superficial "good people" who may hinder our growth and progress.