Written by Rouran.
There is a saying in "A Man's Pilgrimage": "Cherish the true feelings and sincerity of words, and do not use them as ammunition." ”
Many times, we always save our worst temper for the people we love the most and push them away with hurtful words.
But we underestimate the power of language, chilling the hearts of those who really care about us.
When men and women get along, even if they are intimate, they must grasp the scale of language, and don't say these three sentences casually.
In "I Am an Orator", the host Kou Naixin told a small story that happened to him.
She and her husband both have strong personalities, and they don't give in to each other when they quarrel. Once, the two of them began to quarrel again, and in her anger, she scolded without hesitation:
Huang Guolun, what are you worthy of my Kou Naixin, do you know that you have been divorced, you are second-hand, you are not worthy of me! ”
Such ruthless words made Huang Guolun stunned, and his heart was also half cold, he said:
Naixin, there are some words that can't be spoken, you know? Then he silently packed his bags and left.
Kou Naixin looked at her husband's back, and then began to regret it, realizing that what she said was too much, but how could the heart that had been hurt recover so quickly.
Some words seem to be venting emotions, but once they are spoken, the damage caused is irreparable, and the consequences are unbearable.
Everyone has their own bottom line, and no one will tolerate you without principles.
Therefore, you must think twice before speaking, and don't let the impulse ruin a hard-won relationship.
Many people will always fall into comparisons in love.
She is younger and prettier than you and can dress up; He is more considerate than you have a car and a house, and there are many dissatisfactions and troubles compared to coming and going.
The girl Sakura is like this, the girls who play well with themselves have found a very good marriage partner, and the family is either a demolition household, or a golden beetle son-in-law in the system.
Gradually, she looked at her husband more and more unpleasantly, feeling that he was not enterprising, not self-motivated at all, always intentionally or unintentionally said to her husband, you look at who her husband, married in the same year as us, everyone bought a car in full, but I and you have not even paid off the mortgage, people travel abroad during the holidays, I have not even been out of ......the province with you in the past year”
After talking too many times, her husband also began to get impatient, and left a sentence: "If you think that person is good, you can go with him, why are you looking for me." ”
This time it was her turn not to speak, yes, this person was chosen by her at the beginning, others have other people's good, he also has his good, it is really unfair to compare other people's advantages with his shortcomings.
Since then, Sakura has never complained, and her WeChat signature has become something like this: "Choose what you love, love what you choose." ”
Not blindly comparing, not internal friction and anxiety, and guarding your own days is not a kind of happiness.
In marriage, many women resolve conflicts and conflicts by mentioning divorce, so that the man can compromise and accommodate himself.
Mention it occasionally, and the other party may care, and is willing to coax you and follow you.
But the number of times he mentions it is actually constantly testing the patience of the other party, and when he is really indifferent to these two words, he will lose his awe of marriage.
I watched a couple quarrel on the Internet before, and both of them seemed to be very emotional, and the woman said to her husband: "Then divorce".
Unexpectedly, my husband said: "Just leave, who do you scare with these two words every day." After speaking, he took the woman's hand and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau, but the woman was unwilling to go.
She actually didn't want to leave in her heart, but she chose the wrong way of communication and pushed the other party farther and farther away.
Two people living under one roof, no matter how angry they are, they must also control their emotions, and don't easily say cruel words to break each other's hearts.
Don't wait until the other party really doesn't care, it's too late to regret it.
Words are a bridge between hearts and minds, and they can also be the best for mutual harm.
If you love someone, you must speak well and don't rub salt on the most vulnerable places of the other person.
Share happy things in a timely manner, confide in each other sad things, spread out disagreements, and don't say cruel words.
A relationship can only go long-term if you know how to cherish and respect each other.