Mate selection view
Today's young people have higher and higher requirements for their partners, and their three views are also very similar.
But most of the time, the perfect image you imagine is hard to come across.
Why are there so many single women in society now?
It has been said that men have no money because they have no money, while women have no money. Whatever the reason, at the end of the day, it's all about finding a partner.
Therefore, we have made some observations here on the concept of mate selection in the hope that we can shed some light on young people.
Not the best, but the best
Whether it's in a relationship or getting married, who doesn't want the best?
Here's how the story came about:
A young man goes to a marriage agency to find his partner. When he walked into the marriage agency, the first thing he saw was two doors, one was "old" and the other was "young".
The person next to him told him to pick and choose.
Hearing this, he did not hesitate to choose the "young" door. When I entered the door, I saw the "Ershan Gate", one said it was beautiful, and the other said it was "ugly".
If you don't want to be beautiful when you are looking for a girlfriend, the boys naturally enter the door of beauty.
Then there were two more courses, "capable" and "incapable", and he chose another "capable".
Passing through the gate, there are two large gates with the words "educated" and "uneducated" written respectively.
He believes that it is important to find a "cultured" person.
When the young man entered the gate marked "upbringing", he found that there was nothing but a mirror. Next to the mirror, there is a line of words: "Please look in the mirror first." ”
Have you noticed that today's young people, the requirements for the other half are to be young, beautiful, capable, and educated......There are few exceptions.
We often say that the best things always belong to everyone, not to one person.
Just imagine if a girl was so beautiful, then she would not end up being some man, but only a public figure, but, if she did, she would become a courtesan.
It may sound harsh, but it's true.
First of all, you must know enough about yourself before you can make the right choice. Of course, it also depends on your own situation.
Choosing a partner is not about finding the best person, but about finding the right person for you.
Chinese always say that a person looks like a couple, not just appearance, but also has a bigger meaning, that is, both people have poor family backgrounds.
Door-to-door is very important
Men usually put youth and beauty first.
But understand that youth does not last long, youth only makes people age, and beautiful faces can quickly become ugly, and no one can be an exception.
What about women? Many women believe that they must find a husband with money and status, and that is to rise to the top.
Then you can wear beautiful clothes, wear expensive jewelry, and live comfortably.
Many real-life examples tell us that the average girl from a family has to marry a wealthy man.
Since marrying him, she has become a high-level nanny, being called and often ridiculed.
Because her in-laws' family looked down on her and felt that she didn't deserve to enjoy this home.
When getting married, whether two people are compatible is a very important criterion.
Such a gap will make people wonder: Is this a bad idea? Is this ill-intentioned? Even if it wasn't, it would be wronged.
Of course, not everyone is the same, as long as the difference is not too big.
It would be better if two people have similar family backgrounds and identities.
Just imagine, children from similar backgrounds, in the case of a similar growth environment, their thoughts, their vision, are the same.
In this way, we can communicate better and communicate better.
If two people's family backgrounds are very different, then their lifestyles will also be very different.
It may not feel much at first, but as time goes on, the distance between the two will get farther and farther apart.
We must keep in mind that climbing the dragon and attaching the phoenix will hurt both sides.
It's too difficult to change your fate by getting married, and there are too many pie-in-the-sky things.
If so, we don't have a problem with that, because sometimes it can work well.
However, this is only a small probability, is it worth it?
Individuals and families are involved
Is love a person's business or a family's business? Is it up to you to get married, or is it the whole family?
Every member is a family member, and their manifestations in foreign affairs activities can be divided into two types, one is a family member, and the other is an individual.
Westerners are influenced by individualism and are more inclined to individualism than family.
They believe that their words, deeds and actions have nothing to do with their families, and that they are entirely their own private affairs, their own affairs, and their own responsibility.
From ancient times to the present, Chinese society does not have an individual, but a family. When any of us go out, it is the power of a family, which is called the power of a family.
This makes our family more like an unlimited, accountable business, and it emphasizes family pro.
There is a long-term interdependence between parents and children, and no matter what they decide, so do their results.
Why are the Chinese like this?
Since a person's abilities are very limited, we want to get more love from our family members;
At the same time, it also calls on more people to participate and use the power of the family to fulfill their dreams.
In this way, we can understand that Chinese cannot be selfish and must keep their family in their hearts.
For Chinese, falling in love and getting married cannot be just one person's business, it is a family affair, and it requires everyone to have their own responsibility.
Nowadays, many families are estranged because of their children's love and marital problems. If a family cannot be united, then the family will be torn apart.
If everyone is selfish, then everyone will become separate, there will be no trust and trust between relatives and friends, that home is like a hotel, without any temperature.
Truth be told, if two people are both selfish and have a strong sense of self, it will be difficult to be together, and they will not be together for a long time.
A person's power is very limited, if you regard love as your own business, you have to take on a lot of responsibilities, otherwise, the whole family will treat her as an outsider in the future.
Eventually, he came up with a solution, which was to get the children to respect each other and discuss with each other so that they could not lose their way.