The law of the development of love follows the objective logic of the development of things, that is, sweet first and then bitter, which is similar to the profit of the moon and the loss, and the extreme of things must be reversed. Most people will experience one or two unforgettable love before marriage, and there are not a few people who enter marriage because of love. When they enter into marriage, they have surprisingly the same vision and fantasy, that is, to bring love into marriage and live happily ever after.
But the reality is often not satisfactory, marriage is like a besieged city, the outside people want to get in, and the people inside want to come out. Unmarried people do not know what is happening in the city, and even if there are many disadvantages of marriage according to hearsay, they prefer to believe the judgment of marriage based on their present state of happiness.
The time of the newlywed Yan'er is beautiful and short, when the child falls to the ground, many of the previous good times will come to an abrupt end, many people are puzzled, why the previous beauty will suddenly stop, how their partner suddenly changed like a different person, quarrels constantly, and the days go by all over the place.
In fact, anyone's marriage is to cross the river by feeling the stones, and no class in the school will teach the content of how to manage marriage. If the marriage certificate is the ticket for the husband and wife to enter the marriage, then the birth of offspring is the official beginning of the marriage.
After giving birth to a baby, the little couple lack the experience of conceiving a baby, and they are busy learning and taking care of them, especially after the mother-in-law intervenes in the life of the little couple in order to take care of the child, the family atmosphere has undergone earth-shaking changes. Regardless of economic conditions, most mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships have experienced tensions.
Many people ridicule the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as a problem since ancient times, thinking that the husband does not play a role as a bridge between his wife and mother, but in fact, this is only a superficial reason. It is true that the daughter-in-law and her in-laws did not know each other in the past, and they did not have any emotional foundation, but they became a family because of marriage, but in fact, they did not really accept each other in their hearts.
Whether it is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or a conflict between husband and wife, the core reason is that the newlyweds have not completely come out of their respective original families. Although their people have entered into marriage and formed a family, their hearts are still stuck in the original family in the past, after all, they have lived in the original family for more than 20 years, and they will not be instantly separated because of a marriage certificate.
This kind of separation is not only the separation from the family of origin, but the core is the separation of interests. When the married life of the young couple is detrimental to either party's parents, both parties will fight hard and desperately protect the interests of their parents.
They focus on the interests of their respective original families, three to five years of interest separation and competition, and constantly test each other's tolerance of the bottom line, the two original families with their children as spokespersons in the marriage of values and interests of fierce confrontation, until the newly formed family completes the reorganization of interests, the young couple will devote more energy to their own family interests, then the interests of the original family began to take a back seat.
After the reorganization of interests, the young couple no longer puts the interests of their parents first, but puts the interests of their own family first, so that the marriage can gradually become harmonious and stable in the future.